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“Part 1: Raising Godly Daughters”

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Uniquely Made:

Men and women are made for each other. Women are not made for women, and men are not made for men. Women can give birth and become mothers; men cannot. Men, can become fathers, they can go out and work hard, grueling hours of painful, physical labor; women cannot. We were not made to go out to do what men do, or even try to be a father to our children. Men are not meant to try to be the mothers either. We [women] were made to do what we are specifically designed for; Wifehood, motherhood, caretaking, nurturing, homemaking etc.


I’m not a feminist whatsoever. I will not agree with, or raise my daughter(s) to stand for something that takes away the exact thing it thinks its standing for; femininity. We don’t have to be naked to be feminine. We don’t have to hate men, to be feminine, and we shouldn’t idolize ourselves as “a goddess” like this world promotes, so often. We should not promote such things to our girls. We are beautiful already and we are very strong, in our own ways. We are not men, and we are definitely not a god.  

Why do women have to make it a competition against men, on “who is better?”

Are women so insecure about themselves, that they feel the need to become men, or to prove they are better than? or even just to prove they are better than everyone (men and women) by trying to become something, entirely made up?

Not Made To Be The Same:

Men and women are not made to be the same, both have strengths that the other does not. That is the beauty of the entire thing! That’s one of the many reasons why a man and a woman are meant to be together. They compliment each other the exact way, God intended them to. Ephesians 5:31 (ESV) “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

The blessing that we have as women to carry a child, and have our bodies go through those processes (our cycles, our pregnancies, and even through our struggles with both); be encouraged in that, because a man could never do that! If you’re a man be encouraged in the hard work you do to provide and protect your family; be encouraged in being the head of the house, that you can father your children, because a woman could never take the place of a dad!

As a woman, I am so grateful to my husband for doing that painful, hard, physical labor and being a father to our child. It is a true blessing and God-given privilege to have someone who protects us and provides for our family. A woman is meant to be cared for by a husband who protects and provides for her and their children. The Lord intended for there to be that unity, of marriage and family. It’s a true, blessing. Now, this isn’t to say that people who are living as celibate for example, aren’t blessed, if you love the Lord as your savior, then you’re already blessed! Marriage isn’t what brings forth blessings into your life, the Lord is who brings the blessings, into your life.

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I will raise my daughter to know that men are the leaders of families and we honor them as such. I will also teach her, that a God-fearing man will honor and respect a woman as the delicate, yet strong heir of the grace of life that we are.

The Verses:

–  1 Peter 3:7 (ESV) “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

Ephesians 5:22 (ESV) “Wives submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

Eph 5:25 (ESV) “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,”

Titus 2:4-5 (ESV) “and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands that the word of God may not be reviled.”

This scripture in Titus, goes on to talk about sons as well, but that is not what we are discussing today. All of these verses I used, are ones I’ve personally heard people use when they are arguing against men and women’s specific commands, from the Lord. 

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Breaking Down The Verses:

I know a lot of people just think that the Bible says that women are weak, submissive, and all they do is slave away to men. In reality, that is far from the truth. 

Women are held, and should be held in honor and respect, as it says! When God grants that authority to men (or authority to anyone in general) it is always for the blessing of protection of those under it. Anybody who uses their God-given authority to their own advantage at the cost of those under it, will have to answer to the Lord who gave it to them in the first place; men, government, anyone.

Most people just see “women— weak.” If you have the biblical understanding that men are the leaders of their families, then you should be able to understand that when it says “weaker vessel” it is because we are physically weaker, than men. It also says, we are heirs. Men are supposed to show honor to the women, because we are the heirs of the grace of life with them, how can we always skip over that part?

The commands given to the men, are for a husband to love his wife (Ephesians 5:25, ESV). When the husband’s authority is mentioned here, it is simply stated as a fact, not a command. The Lord didn’t say “husbands, go practice your authority over your wives” He did say “love your wives.”

From a biblical perspective, women are to be the mothers, caretakers, and homemakers. While the men are to be the fathers, providers, and protectors. Both are to be honored and respected.

This is the study guide version! I will get this for our family as well, for dinner time talk!

We [women] are put under our husband’s authority, because they are meant to be the head of the house just, as Christ is the head of the church (Ephesians5:23). If both husband and wife focus on their God-given responsibilities to one another, and take care of their relationship, there will be peace, and not a war between the two. Obviously, we are not a sinless, perfect people, but the point of this is, biblical women are not meant to be “slaves”, and biblical men are not meant to be their abuser.

As well as, only men are meant to be the father, just as only women are meant to be the mother, of their family.

So when we raise our daughters up, let’s teach them, and show them how to be the wife the Lord has intended for us to be. If you are a husband and father, teach and show your daughters how the Lord intended a Godly man to be as well! As we teach our daughters about wifehood and motherhood, it is not just us moms, but the dads too, that need to show them a great example of what a husband and wife should be. We must provide a Godly example of these things, to our children!

The world is not going to do it for us, let alone, help us in any way.

To be continued..

Update: Part 2 linked here, and Part 3 linked here

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