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“Sober-Mindedness: Are We Truly Submitted To The Lord?”

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What do we think when we hear we are called, as followers of Christ, to keep “sober-minded” and “self-controlled”? I love thinking over these things in scripture, partly because of my own convictions with that, but also just seeing how much our flesh goes against these things everyday. The question that we need to be asking ourselves often is, are we truly submitting to the Lord?

Some scripture that mentions these, specifically:

I encourage you to read much further!

  • 1 Peter 1:13, then in chapter 4:7, and chapter 5:8-9
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:6-8
  • Romans 12:3
  • 1 Timothy 2:9, then in chapter 3:1-7 – & verse 11
  • 2 Timothy 1:7
  • Titus 1:7-8, then in chapter 2:1-12
  • Philippians 4:8
  • James 4:7
  • Ephesians 5:9
  • Galatians 5:22-23

When we take a look throughout scripture the point remains the same [in this area]; stay sober-minded, and have self-control. Because why? Well to start, we have a very sinful nature, and the enemy can always tempt, trick, manipulate, plot, and destroy with that if we aren’t too careful. How will we stay clear on our path, if we cannot stay clear in our heads about what the truth is, and who we submit too? 2 Corinthians 11:14 ESV “And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.”

I think we too often forget, “even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.” Sounds to me like we ought to be thoroughly sober-minded with an adversary parading around as something he most certainly is not; something seemingly good. We would be utter fools to think we could even withstand his illusions and alluring ways, without a sober mind, without self-control. Ultimately, without the Lord.

We must stay sober-minded and self-controlled in our emotions, and in anything we allow to captivate our minds; in every way.  (Because we know this is not just about refraining from getting drunk).

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Who or what, is captivating our minds?

Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit:

Galatians 5:22-24 ESV “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.”

Just before this in Galatians, we read about keeping in step with the Spirit, and the works of our flesh. Verse 16 (ESV)”But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.” And then in Verses 19-21 (ESV) “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

This is a perfect guideline for us to go by here, in this chapter (and many other places in the Bible).

How About Those Emotions?

The Lord gave us feelings, and so they have purpose here. But don’t underestimate one more than the other, and don’t think that they are reliable. Our feelings are not trustworthy. Showing love can lead us to the gates of Hell, just as much as showing anger— IF we use our feelings in accordance to our flesh instead of in accordance to the Lord and what He has said in scripture. So, stay clear on what you’re allowing your feelings to dictate, as those shouldn’t be leading any decisions; regardless of how good an emotion can be.

James 4:7 ESV “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

Matthew 6:9-13 ESV “Pray the like this: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.”

Psalm 23:1-6 ESV “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”

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We cannot do, or be anything more than the Lord can or is. If we try to do anything in a way that we feel is good and Godly enough, instead of the way the Lord has said too, who is it we are truly submitting too? We were never promised we’d feel comfortable, good, or happy, about what the Lord asks of us. We are told to submit to His will, and bring Him the Glory, regardless of our flesh!

Stay Sober, and Encourage Those Around You To Do The Same:

If we’ve truly repented and accepted Jesus into our hearts, then we should know that we are called to lead people to Christ, to not cause our brothers/sisters in Christ to stumble, but to uplift them and encourage them, to speak the truth, and to be the salt and light of this world. 

Matthew 5:13-16 ESV “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works, and bring glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

One way to encourage sober-mindedness and self-control (aside from going to the Lord with your struggle, prayer, and continuing to read scripture), is to keep accountability! If it’s something that has become a struggle, have someone trustworthy in your family/church community help with that. Remember the fruits of the Spirit, and if you notice a friend or loved one struggling with any of this, lift them up by speaking the truth; reminding them of it, and encouraging them with it.

A common reason (for many things), for not being able to keep hold of our self-control, or our sober-mindedness, is that we do not truly submit to God. 

We are always more likely to submit to our sins, unless we can “die to self” and “resist the devil.” (Luke 9:23-24, James 4:7) It will always be our sinful nature, to want and try to resist the goodness of God. How wretched we are, should be a daily reminder of how wonderful the Lord is. His grace and mercy; a fair and just God.

Lastly, I’ll leave with this;

“If it’s according to your will Lord, let it be so.”

1 Corinthians 10:31 ESV “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

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“Part 2: Filtering Through Good and Bad Media”

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Negative Language:

When it comes to language, I always think of the words like the “F” Bomb for example; stuff we hear the most on people, with a so called “trucker’s mouth.” However, negative and foul language can be different for every culture, in every part of the world, and negative language is not limited to just a handful of words. So, without focusing on the certain group of words so much, lets look at scripture; 

  1. Ephesians 4:29 ESV –  “Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
  2. Philippians 4:8 ESV –  “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
  3. Colossians 4:6 ESV – “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”

We all know that there are things that people say to hurt the other, and we hear this everywhere! Not just on media, but also in our own lives. Maybe we were one of those people at a certain point in time. Again, take the good, and throw out the bad when you find negative/foul language in your personal media sources. There is scripture that says we should not make friends with angry people, I would say the same goes for watching or listening to angry people too. We need to be careful what and who we surround ourselves with and this goes for media, as well. 

Proverbs 22:24-25 ESV “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.”

1 Corinthians 15:33 ESV – “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Proverbs 13:20 ESV – “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”

For some, a person’s biggest relationship is social media, or any media sources for that matter. Currently in this society, we create relationship through media apps, or only have our friendships via online. It is still necessary to filter out our online media, just as much as our in-person media.

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Violence:

Reading through the bible, there is many instances mentioned of justice happening in ways we might not like, of wars, and of deaths. When it comes to violence in what we watch or listen to, we need to think carefully on a few things;

1. Why is this violence happening?

  • What is the purpose of it? 
  • Is this something we can pick good out of, and throw away the bad?
  • If you can read reviews on this media source, and take into account the main “scenes” mentioned, is it something to be watching/listening to it at all?
  • Is it worth your time, and why?

2. We know the Lord has righteous anger, we know he has permitted wars, even executions and helped people in wars fought, throughout scripture.

  • What does he say when it comes to anger in the flesh/anger of man?
  • What does he say about murder?
  • What does he say about justice, in regards to wrongdoers?

When I think of violence I think angry people, probably trying to kill each other. In action movies for example, there is usually a bad guy and good guy. The bad guy is seeking to destroy something and the good guy is seeking justice, and/or trying to stop him.

We need to go deeper though.

  1. Is this portraying an anger of the flesh?
  2. Is this Justice that the said media portrays, true Justice?
  • Is there any good you can take out from this?
  • Does the said justice, go in line with true, biblical justice? or does it go along with fleshly desires?
  • Identify what the justice is, that is being portrayed in the media you are viewing.

Hebrews 10:30 ESV – “For we know him who said, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.”

Genesis 9:6 ESV – “Whoever sheds the blood of man, by man shall his blood be shed, for God made man in his own image.”

Romans 13:3-4 ESV – “For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer.”

Proverbs 3:31-32 ESV – “Do not envy a man of violence and do not choose any of his ways, for the devious person is an abomination to the Lord, but the upright are in his confidence.”

Psalm 11:5 ESV – “The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.”

Romans 12:9 ESV – “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.”

Maybe this specific thing has a lot of gore and it’s very graphic, and maybe that doesn’t bother you at all emotionally, or physically. However, Is that a good reason to continue watching or listening to it? I could give you my answer on that, but just think of it this way;

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With that reasoning, if something doesn’t bother you emotionally or physically, to allow into your mind, does this make whatever it is, right? No, it doesn’t. Why is that? 

I used to love crime shows, but the more I watched, the more graphic the scenes became. Did that bother me? After a while, no. But that was not a good reason to continue, and I had no good to pick out of them; at least not anymore. I don’t know what good would have come out of it, and I can only imagine where that would have ultimately led me to. Thankfully, I eventually stopped watching certain shows, altogether. I do still enjoy mystery shows, once I have filtered through them. Unfortunately, some things in the media have no good to pick out

When it comes to media that is solely about senseless, evil acts of violence or killing, I would argue that you cannot pick any good out of media like that. It can be difficult to pick through the ones we don’t need in our minds, especially when there is so many media sources and unfortunately, such easy access to everything. Not all crime, action, or justice seeking media is bad, and not all movies that state “violence” in the rating are bad either. What we are trying to do, is weed out the kinds of media that is, not throw away all our media entirely.

Things We Can Do To Help Filter Out Some Media From Any of Our Sources:

  1. We can use Parent Guides to review media before watching or listening, such as;
  • Common Sense Media, link here.
  • IMBD Parent’s Guide link here. Any movie we watch, we can look up it’s title and view the Parental reviews for it and it helps us narrow down if it’s a movie we can just look away during certain scenes, or if we should even be watching it at all. There are other review sites, however, these are just a couple we have used in the past.

2. Taking the good and throwing out the bad in the media we do allow in, we can;

  • We can simply turn away, mute the sound, or even just skip a scene!
  • We can send kids out of the room, or have them turn around so they don’t see a scene.

3. When it comes to social medias apps; Carefully look through all the apps, and which ones you will have and will allow your children to have, and go from there!

  • Any social media requires us to pick out the good from the bad
  • Options for this could be, create a private account, limit screen time, and as always, have honest communication between parent and child!
  • Also, we need to be able to help our children identify what’s true and what’s not.

With every category mentioned, although I’ve previously said it already— take the good and throw out the bad. Majority of our media has a lot of both, so we need to be diligent in being able to identify the bad parts! We also need to help our children be able to identify the bad parts on their own, as we cannot always do it for them. They need to be able to learn what the truth is, and how to spot what’s not true. John 14:6 ESV – “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

Lastly, I encourage you to not stop at the scripture I added, but read more and do more searching on your own! If you find that you have to weed out some of your media, great! Weed it out and use this as a teaching moment for your children, if possible. If you have found you don’t need to do much weeding right now, that’s great too! Ultimately, we just need to be watchful of what we put in our minds.

“Part 1: Filtering Through Good and Bad Media” linked here

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“Part 1: Filtering Through Good and Bad Media”

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When it comes to movies, shows, social media, or anything of that sort, we as parents, get worried! We ask ourselves, if this show is too much language, violence, sexual content— what is truly safe or okay for our minds, and our children’s minds? My hope is that you don’t shy away from all media entirely after reading this, but that this can help guide you with what media you do take in!

First, Lets Examine Ourselves:

As parents, we know our children learn and copy things, from us. Whether they are 1 years old copying our head nods and dance moves, or 15 years old copying our attitudes, they do! I can say from experience, that I have copied my parents at times during my childhood and teen years by handling things the way I thought they would have, and I can also say from experience, my own 1 year old daughter copies me! 

Obviously, there will be things that we do as adults our kids will not be able to do until they are older, or adults even. However, with communication and time, they should eventually understand those reasons. But we’re not talking about that. We’re talking about our reasoning as parents, for guidelines on what’s considered safe for their minds and why. As a parent, who is in the beginning of weeding out things for my daughter to watch or listen to, my husband and I have started it with a few questions;

  1. What have I been watching and allowing myself to see?
  2. Is there anything that is not glorifying to God for me to let into my mind whatsoever, in my movies, media, books, etc?
  3. If there is something, why am I continuing to watch/listen to it?
  • is it because it doesn’t bother me physically/emotionally, so I don’t see any reason to stop?
  • is it because it is fun, thrilling, or is enjoyable for me to watch/listen to?

4. What does the Lord say in scripture, about some of the main factors we see in media;

  • Such as sexual content (any sex scenes, insinuative sexual innuendo, intimate couple scenes, nudity, etc), violence (any gruesome, graphic, gore, etc), and negative language (cursing, putting people down— any foul, negative, degrading talk).

We should first pinpoint what it is we have allowed to overstep into our own minds, before we oversee what will overstep in our children’s minds. There will of course, be plenty of media, that we just have to take the good from and throw out the bad; majority of it is like that, but there are also just certain things in the media that has no logical, nor biblical reasons to view or listen to, at all. 

Sexual Content:

One of the things that helps me personally, and that I tend to think of first when it comes to sexual content in any kind of media I will be watching or listening to is; 

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If a couple were doing this in the mall or parking lot, would I just stand and watch them, or would I try not to look, and walk away? Think of it like that, a real scenario where you are actually witnessing 2 people like that, on a random day. Let’s break it down to what we know is true.

When it comes to sexual intimacy in our lives: 

The Lord made sex/sexual intimacy to be a special, beautiful, union between husband and wife, only.

  • Genesis 1:28 ESV “And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
  • Mark 10:6-9 ESV “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

God made sexual intimacy, for us to enjoy in marriage to the fullest!

  • 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 ESV “ The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
  • Any of Song of Solomons is also good example of the blessing of that union in marriage as well, I encourage you to read through that too!

We are not to act in sexual immorality.

  • Matthew 5:27-28 ESV “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
  • I also encourage you to read through Romans 1:18-32
  • 1 Corinthians 6:18-19 ESV ” Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know the body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom who have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

Looking at scripture, we can confirm that any intimacy/sex is meant for a husband and wife to enjoy to the fullest, and that we are not to act in sexual immorality of any sorts. We can agree (I hope) that Pornography is bad, but then we go and watch sexual content and/or sex scenes in “regular” movies, or other media, why is that?

Another way to think of it as, is why would we bring in a third party, or become the third party to someone else’s intimacy, by watching it on a screen, or listening to it?

Does it truly matter, whether a certain sexual scene or scenario bothers us emotionally, or physically? What we should focus on instead, is whether we should be viewing it at all.

I encourage you:

  • To read scripture on what the Lord intends intimacy/sex for, and what is true and not true about it.
  • Then evaluate the media you are allowing into your own mind.
  • Next, evaluate what media you will be allowing your children to view.

When it comes to our kids watching or listening to things, we need to be able to explain to them why we allow certain things and not others, and why we are watching things that we previously gave them a no, on. They need to understand the biblical reasoning behind those decisions, on filtering this, or that and why only certain things need to wait until they get older. Not just for sexual content, but for other things like language and violence as well, which is what we will be discussing next!

To Be Continued…

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“Resources I’ve Found Helpful, Throughout My Walk of Faith”

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Since becoming a Christian for myself, and realizing that I didn’t have this faith solely because my parents did, I have had a desire to learn more about Christ, to ask more questions, to seek the truth and the evidence for it. Now that I am also a parent, I find that desire to be amplified, greatly. Since I started my search I have found resources (and have been given recommendations) that turned out to be a lot of help. 

I thought it would also be of help to you and your family, to list some of my most helpful resources! Especially to help equip us for when our kids start asking us very hard questions! So, before I get the list started, I just want to encourage you to read everything, but most importantly test everything. I will divide everything into different categories, to help make it easier.

A lot of these resources, are things that sparked many questions and much curiosity, and if it’s not something you’ve watched or heard before, I’m sure it will for your family too! Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself to think more critically, to gain better answers for those hard questions, even if it takes effort and time. These different resources, took me down so many bunny trails of thoughts! Although a lot of them were strengthening for me, some I wrestled with.

As I find more resources, I will update this post with them!

– Resources: 

Debates on Christianity:

  1. John Ferrer vs Matt Dillahunty Debate: Do We need God For Morality?
  2. Allen Hainline vs Lydia Allan Debate: Science and God
  3. The Bible and Beer Consortium Youtube Channel

Informational Videos: Help For Guiding Kids

  1. Mike Winger w/ Elizabeth Urbanowicz “7 Lies Your Kids Will Believe Unless You Do Something”
  2. Mike Winger “Teen Atheist Becomes Christian Because of This Evidence”
  3. Mike Winger “When Your “Progressive Christian” Heresy is Really, Really Clever”
  4. Capturing Christianity W/ Dr. Ben Arbour on: The Ontological argument

Informational Documentaries, and Articles/Blogs:

  1. The Star of Bethlehem Documentary 2007 
  2. Mama Bear Apologetics Blog and Podcast
  3. Natasha Crain Blog: The Number One Sign Your Kids Are Just borrowing Your Faith (and not Developing Their Own).
  4. Natasha Crain Blog and Podcast
  5. Alyssa Childers Blog and Podcast
  6. Article version of William Lane Craig’s Lecture: The Kalam Cosmological Argument
  7. More information on the: Ontological Argument
  8. More information on the: Teleological Argument

More research on your end, is greatly encouraged. I did not put these here as answers to everything, but they are here more so, to get you to think deeper! I found my faith being strengthened, when I went to seek the truth; I encourage you to do the same.

John 8:31-32 ESV “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

John 14:6 ESV “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

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“Christian Families vs Halloween.”

Husband carved this, for our daughter- too cute!

This week, a bad cold hit our little family, and we haven’t been doing very much, but watching Tinker Bell with our daughter, and drinking tea. Halloween looks different every year for us, we don’t ever go crazy about it and we look at it, as any other day. Usually, my husband is working and our daughter, Beatrice, has been too little to do things, anyways. I’m sure what we do on Halloween, will change over time, though. Celebrate or not to celebrate; it’s so sticky for a lot of Christian families, and with having my own family now, I’ve had my views change over this day, as well.

The Way We Grew Up:

My family really never celebrated Halloween, at all. We did maybe once or twice, when I was very young, but after I got older, and more siblings came along we stopped, entirely. My husband’s family did celebrate, in their own little way. Just them around their house, and as he and his siblings got older they would go to a Halloween party, if a friend was throwing one, and such. As a child, I always had the perspective that Halloween was an evil holiday, and it wasn’t good for Christians to celebrate. My husband and I, had many talks over what we would do, as we had grown up in families that had pretty, different takes on it.

Questions To Ask: For Parents and Kids

  • In regards to Halloween day, and costumes:
  1. What ways could we honor the Lord, on this day?
  2. What kinds of celebration during this day, would be dishonoring to the Lord, if we partake in it?
  3. What does scripture say, about celebration and how to honor the Lord, with what we do?
  4. What does scripture say about life and death?
  5. What parts of Halloween do you think contains glorifications of death and sinful things?
  6. What parts of Halloween do you think does not glorify, death and sinful things?
  7. Have you prayed about it, to make sure it won’t be harmful to you and/or your faith in any way?
  8. If you wear a costume, what could you wear that is honoring to the Lord?
  9. Why do you think this specific costume, would honor the Lord?
  10. Why do you think this specific costume, would be dishonoring to the Lord?
  • In regards to Halloween parties, horror movies, and haunted festivities:
  1. What about the movie seems honoring and/or dishonoring to the Lord? and could you pick out any good things from it, that would be beneficial to you and/or your faith in any way?
  2. What about this haunted festivity is honoring and/or dishonoring to the Lord? and is there any good you can pick out?
  3. What about this specific party is honoring and/or dishonoring to the Lord? and is there any good you can pick out?
  4. Have you prayed about it, to make sure it wouldn’t be harmful to you and/or your faith, in any way?
  5. What ways could you spread the gospel, while out with your friends on a day like this?

If you find that, as you answer these questions- you and your children- that maybe Halloween is not something you need to, or want to partake in at all, then that is okay. If you find that while answering these questions, you have found yourself seeing the parts of Halloween that aren’t so bad, and see it to be alright for your family to partake in after all, that is also okay.

If you have fully thought it out, looked into scripture, and discussed it with your spouse, as to why you have decided on this or that, and you have found a way to partake, that honors and glorifies the Lord, go for it!

On my list of books to get!

What Our Kids Need To Know, About Anything We Choose To Celebrate:

When it comes to Halloween, if you’re a Christian family and you choose to celebrate parts of it, or you don’t at all, I think either way is fine! I listened to a podcast recently, (Allie Beth Stuckey’s Relatable Podcast: Ep 514) where she (Allie) talks about how they put candy in baggies, with a piece of paper that had scripture on it, or making banners with scripture on it as outside decor- I thought it was a wonderful inspiration! It’s the one day a year people, come to our doors, and we don’t have to lecture them, or convert them right there on our front porch, but at least spread some gospel. If you can, and while you can!

– Philippians 4:6-9 ESV “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

I am giving, a brief description of what she talked over in the podcast episode, but it was worth mentioning on here for sure! I encourage you to go find, and listen to that podcast. I definitely agree with how she thinks when it comes to Halloween! We are not called to celebrate, or glorify death and decay, and while Halloween has a lot of that; I do think that not every piece of Halloween is a celebration of death. Like getting candy for example, or wearing (certain) costumes. Those are both things kids do randomly throughout the year, anyways. At least, when I was a child, I played dress up and ate candy, occasionally.

Regardless of what’s decided, our children need to know that whatever we choose to celebrate, it needs to be honoring to the Lord!

More Scripture:

  • 1 Corinthians 10:31 ESV “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
  • 1 Corinthians 6:20 ESV “for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
  • Proverbs 15:3 ESV “The eyes of the Lord are in every place, keeping watch on the evil and the good.”

What We Will Do: 

Our daughter, isn’t quite old enough to be doing things right now, for any holiday that is. However, as she gets older I see her asking to go to parties with friends, maybe mentioning those creepier movies, or wanting to go to different kinds of haunted festivities, no doubt! I’m sure we all have done so, to our parents at one point in time.

I can’t imagine we’d say no, unless for good reason, if she wants to go to a Halloween party a friend is throwing. As for the other “haunted” things, or even the creepy movies, considering they are mostly playing, this time of year; we will ask the questions listed above, and help our daughter or any children we have, to figure it out through thought, prayer, and scripture, just as we will do with everything else. 

Halloween should not be a day that is feared so much that we hide away, or seen as something like the devil’s birthday, as I’ve been told in the past, as a young child who just wanted some candy (I unfortunately, don’t recall who exactly said this). However, that did indeed, deter me from wanting to partake! and it is definitely not the devils birthday, in case you were wondering. If you choose to, or choose not to, partake in any parts of Halloween, I encourage you to explain why to your children, and make sure your decision, will honor God. It’s also important, to make sure they understand that your decision, is honoring to God.

Lastly, if whatever you have chosen to partake in, or celebrate, does not honor the Lord in any way, you should rethink why you are celebrating it, at all.