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“Being a Wife and Mother: Our Perspective and Mindset”

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I think we can all agree that most people (including myself) find it difficult to find the joy in certain aspects of their lives. For some, it’s the certain joys that come with being a wife and/or mother. We all have weak spots, and some of us have the same weaknesses, while others don’t. As a wife, I’ve personally struggled with patience and that results in a quick temper at times, because of the mindset I have had on my wifely responsibilities.

Too often, I have or hear other conversations where the comments one makes about being a mother, or being a wife are negative. It makes me wonder why I don’t hear more positive remarks when there is so much joy to be found! The topic, and question I’ve had heavily on my thoughts lately is; What is our perspective of being a wife/mother and do we have a healthy mindset about the responsibilities that come with being one or both of those things?

Some of the negative comments I hear and maybe you’ve heard before are:

Mother’s Comments:

  • “Just you wait for more kids, you’ll see how hard it is sometimes!”
  • “Just you wait, when you start having kids you’ll see how hard it is!”
  • “You’ll have days when you give up and let things slide too. That’s just how it goes with us veteran moms [who have years of experience]”
  • “I just don’t have the time and they just don’t listen; You’ll see when your kid gets older”
  • “The more kids you have, the less time you have!”

And because our two children will be a year and a half apart in age, I’ve now had other moms mention to me; 

“Oh, that’s going to be so difficult having two so close like that! It’s a struggle”

“Once the baby gets here you won’t have any time! You’ll just be chasing babies all day, you’ll see!”

Wive’s Comments: Some of these next ones have, regrettably, been my own thoughts/comments as a wife, and some of them I’ve heard from others.

  • “Why can’t you just pick up your own messes sometimes? It’s not that hard”
  • “All I do, is clean up everyone’s junk everyday, because everyone in here is too lazy.”
  • “I let my house go a long time ago, I’m too tired from taking care of all these kids to deal with it.”
  • “I made you dinner and I didn’t have to, so the least you could do is clean your mess for me.”
  • “I’m just too tired to do anything, so they’re his kids now while I get a break.”
  • “I just hate cooking! Why can’t you make your own food?”

Is this the kind of perspective we should have— let alone encourage others to have over our responsibilities as a wife/mother?

That the faults of our husbands (big or little) are and will be a burden to us, that our husbands actually owe us for being a wife to them, or for being the mother to their children. To immediately put the blame on anything/anyone else for our priorities being unorganized, or for our attitude over something. Are we forgetting we have faults of our own and that (most times) is it us who needs the attitude adjustment / perspective change first?

When we get into the habit of making motherhood/wifehood as a whole, out to be a drag, a burden, a weight on our shoulders, that it takes away from other joyful things, that it constantly drains you physically/emotionally, and we continue talking about it like that often; we should really re-evaluate our perspective, because unless I missed it somewhere, that’s definitely not what the Lord says.

Is it really worth it, to (purposely or not) point out the struggles a mother and/or wife could endure more than you point out the joys she will endure? Yes, there are certain challenging responsibilities for everyone, of course, but the gift itself of having a child, or the blessing of having a loving husband is just that; something to praise the Lord for.

The Lord is going to challenge us, this is one of the many ways we will grow and learn; by allowing Him to shape us. (read Jeremiah 18:1-6)

The habit of thinking you deserve a reward because you made a good dinner, or you deserve X Y and Z because you were doing a nice job with something is not a good habit to make, because ultimately, we don’t really deserve anything. If we first, fix our perspective to doing our work as a mom/wife to glorify the Lord, we can then evaluate where the actual issues are occurring in those places, if there are issues.

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Let’s Question Our “Wife” and Our “Mother” Perspective: Do we have a healthy mindset?

1. Is your mindset on the responsibilities that come with being a wife negative?

  • Are you primarily focusing on struggles?

  i.e All the mundane inconveniences, how tired you are while doing these responsibilities, the day’s time frame not working in your favor, focusing on what you could be doing instead, and so on…

Do the all the responsibilities you have as a wife make you joyful, or are you often wishing you could be doing some other joy-fulfilling thing instead?

2. If our mindset on our wifely responsibilities is struggling, how can we fix this?

  • Read scripture; Proverbs 31, Genesis 2:18-24, Ephesians 5:22-33, Colossians 3, and 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 are good places to start!
  • Pray for the Lord to open your eyes to the joys and blessings He has given you through being a wife, and for peace knowing it’s His will to be done, not yours. 
  • Ask your husband what he sees, what he thinks you could do better with, and ask for some ideas on how to do better. Maybe even find counsel amongst others in your church community if necessary, who will pray with you!
  • A lot of times we don’t even know how often we make comments like these, so maybe even ask your husband if, or how often he hears you say these things or anything similar.
  • Expect to put in the work, as things don’t often happen over night. Don’t just stop at praying.

3. Do we have a negative mindset when it comes to our motherly duties?

  • Are you primarily focused on struggles?

i.e All the mundane inconveniences, how tired you are while doing these responsibilities, the day’s time frame not working in your favor, focusing on what you could be doing instead, and so on…

Do the all responsibilities you have as a mother make you joyful, or are you often wishing you could be doing some other joy-fulfilling thing instead?

4. How can we fix this? It’s quite the same as before really:

  • Read scripture; Proverbs 31, Psalm 139:13-16, Psalm 127:1-5, Titus 2:3-8, Proverbs 14:1-2, Proverbs 22:6, Deuteronomy 6:4-7, are good places to start!
  • Pray for the Lord to open your eyes to the joys and blessings He has given you through being a mother, and for peace knowing it’s His will to be done, not yours.
  • Ask your husband what he sees, and what he thinks you could do better with. If you can, ask your kid(s) if, or how often they hear you say these things or similar things, just in case it is done more subconsciously than you think. You could also again, find counsel amongst people in your church community, if necessary, who will pray with you!

Even if we’ve read the scriptures before, and feel like we’ve got a Godly perspective on being a wife/mother, we can still have an unhealthy view of our day-to-day responsibilities that come with being one; unless we keep ourselves in check with that and start truly taking in what scripture says, and not just skim over the top of it.

If you’re struggling with something as a mother or as a wife, I highly encourage you to seek your help from the Lord; rely on Him, communicate with your husband, and find counsel amongst your church community, if necessary. However– and I will be blunt– do not use a struggle you have as a reason to go complain and make jokes, because you’re seeking people’s attention and for them to validate/affirm your feelings on the matter.

I encourage you to refresh your memory on what the Lord says about wives and mothers, and reset your mindset. Especially, if you find you have often said similar things as mentioned above or created a habit to think along these lines!

Then take a look at all the issues and struggles you have. Are they all still there? Are you still getting irritated with your loved ones often, and are you still playing the blame game? The running theme for moms and wives I’ve heard for forever it seems, is “The wife is always right.” Then on the flip side, “The mom is always burnt out.”

Guess what, we will never always be right. No one is right 100% of the time, so throw that theme away, right now. Also, if you find that you’re always a “burnt out mom” is it actually because of the responsibilities of motherhood (or wifehood) draining you and putting weight on your shoulders, or is it because of your mindset and how you view those responsibilities that’s burning you out and weighing you down? Have you been trying to take things on without relying on the Lord? Where do your priorities lie, and what are you allowing to use up your time?

I disagree with the common assumption that kids = less time. We have the same amount of time with or without children; It’s what you’re doing with your time, and where you’re setting your priorities. If you’re struggling with getting priorities in the right places; read scripture, pray, and discuss how to prioritize your family with your husband!

Priorities being in order and a perspective change goes a long way if you’re burnt out 24/7 and unable to find joy in where the Lord has brought you– this is a great place to start when you find you are struggling and having issues in some places of your life.

1 Corinthians 10:31 ESV “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

In scripture and what the Lord says, is where we can find the best encouragement and peace in our times of struggle, but I encourage you to look into more. Don’t stop with what I’ve added to this post! and if you’ve said these things or even feel guilty/defensive after reading this because you’ve been in some of these habits; I just encourage you to pray, repent, forgive, move on.

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“Holiday Recipes From My Family, To Yours”

Juliets, Almond Tea, and a wonderful Christmas candle.

With Christmas being here in the next few days, I wanted to do something fun and post some recipes my family has thoroughly enjoyed for a long while! Originally, my Grandma would make these things during the holidays, but I do it for my family now, after she showed me how to make everything! With having my own family now, I get to bring that tradition here at home for my little ones to enjoy, as well. I hope you can take these and enjoy them as much as we have, with your loved ones!

Almond Tea: 

Almond Tea (the cold version; the hot version is in first picture, above).

Servings: 7 cups

Ingredients:

  • 3 Tea bags of Black Tea (Red Rose Brand)
  • 1 cup Sugar
  • 2/3 cup Fresh Lemon Juice
  • 2 tsp Almond Extract
  • 1 tsp Vanilla extract
  • 6 cups Water

Directions:

In a pot, Steep tea bags in 2 cups water for 10 min. Remove tea bags after.

In a separate larger pot, Boil sugar in 4 cups water for 5 min.

In a bowl, combine fresh lemon juice, the vanilla, and almond extract. 

Last, combine everything into larger pot; mix together.

Enjoy hot or cold! 

Notes

  • Can be served hot or cold.
  • Keeps for about 2 wks in fridge.
  • I always recommend making a double batch! It’s delicious!

Juliet Cookies (aka Juliets):

Juliet Cookies

Bake Temp + Time: Bake at 350*F Degrees for 20min (or until lightly golden on edges).

Servings: Makes about 36 cookies total

Ingredients:

  • 1 cup Butter
  • 3/4 cup Sugar
  • 1 3/4 cup Flour
  • 1/4 tsp Salt
  • 1 tbsp Almond Extract
  • 2 Eggs, separated (yolks from whites— set aside whites in a bowl for later)
  • 2 1/2 cups Finely chopped Walnuts.
  • Jar of Maraschino Cherries, halved (I usually just grab a 16oz jar).

Directions:

Cream Together butter, and sugar. 

Add egg yolks. 

Add all dry ingredients.

Add almond extract.

Gently roll dough into small balls.

Dip and cover them in the beaten egg whites, then roll in and cover with finely chopped walnuts.

Place them on baking sheets, lined with parchment paper, then press a cherry half in the middle of dough ball, flattening the cookie a little bit (much like thumbprint cookies!)

Bake 20 min, or until lightly golden on edges. Cool 2min on sheets, before transfer to racks. Enjoy!

Notes:

  • Always handle the dough, and the cookies gently.
  • Don’t chop walnuts into a powder; needs to be fine, but still coarse enough to be sort of flaky on cookies. 
  • Cookies need to be completely covered in the chopped walnuts as well!

Again, I hope you enjoy these delicious family recipes!

Merry Christmas, to you all!

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“Part 2: Filtering Through Good and Bad Media”

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Negative Language:

When it comes to language, I always think of the words like the “F” Bomb for example; stuff we hear the most on people, with a so called “trucker’s mouth.” However, negative and foul language can be different for every culture, in every part of the world, and negative language is not limited to just a handful of words. So, without focusing on the certain group of words so much, lets look at scripture; 

  1. Ephesians 4:29 ESV –  “Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
  2. Philippians 4:8 ESV –  “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
  3. Colossians 4:6 ESV – “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”

We all know that there are things that people say to hurt the other, and we hear this everywhere! Not just on media, but also in our own lives. Maybe we were one of those people at a certain point in time. Again, take the good, and throw out the bad when you find negative/foul language in your personal media sources. There is scripture that says we should not make friends with angry people, I would say the same goes for watching or listening to angry people too. We need to be careful what and who we surround ourselves with and this goes for media, as well. 

Proverbs 22:24-25 ESV “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.”

1 Corinthians 15:33 ESV – “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Proverbs 13:20 ESV – “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”

For some, a person’s biggest relationship is social media, or any media sources for that matter. Currently in this society, we create relationship through media apps, or only have our friendships via online. It is still necessary to filter out our online media, just as much as our in-person media.

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Violence:

Reading through the bible, there is many instances mentioned of justice happening in ways we might not like, of wars, and of deaths. When it comes to violence in what we watch or listen to, we need to think carefully on a few things;

1. Why is this violence happening?

  • What is the purpose of it? 
  • Is this something we can pick good out of, and throw away the bad?
  • If you can read reviews on this media source, and take into account the main “scenes” mentioned, is it something to be watching/listening to it at all?
  • Is it worth your time, and why?

2. We know the Lord has righteous anger, we know he has permitted wars, even executions and helped people in wars fought, throughout scripture.

  • What does he say when it comes to anger in the flesh/anger of man?
  • What does he say about murder?
  • What does he say about justice, in regards to wrongdoers?

When I think of violence I think angry people, probably trying to kill each other. In action movies for example, there is usually a bad guy and good guy. The bad guy is seeking to destroy something and the good guy is seeking justice, and/or trying to stop him.

We need to go deeper though.

  1. Is this portraying an anger of the flesh?
  2. Is this Justice that the said media portrays, true Justice?
  • Is there any good you can take out from this?
  • Does the said justice, go in line with true, biblical justice? or does it go along with fleshly desires?
  • Identify what the justice is, that is being portrayed in the media you are viewing.

Hebrews 10:30 ESV – “For we know him who said, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.”

Genesis 9:6 ESV – “Whoever sheds the blood of man, by man shall his blood be shed, for God made man in his own image.”

Romans 13:3-4 ESV – “For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer.”

Proverbs 3:31-32 ESV – “Do not envy a man of violence and do not choose any of his ways, for the devious person is an abomination to the Lord, but the upright are in his confidence.”

Psalm 11:5 ESV – “The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.”

Romans 12:9 ESV – “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.”

Maybe this specific thing has a lot of gore and it’s very graphic, and maybe that doesn’t bother you at all emotionally, or physically. However, Is that a good reason to continue watching or listening to it? I could give you my answer on that, but just think of it this way;

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With that reasoning, if something doesn’t bother you emotionally or physically, to allow into your mind, does this make whatever it is, right? No, it doesn’t. Why is that? 

I used to love crime shows, but the more I watched, the more graphic the scenes became. Did that bother me? After a while, no. But that was not a good reason to continue, and I had no good to pick out of them; at least not anymore. I don’t know what good would have come out of it, and I can only imagine where that would have ultimately led me to. Thankfully, I eventually stopped watching certain shows, altogether. I do still enjoy mystery shows, once I have filtered through them. Unfortunately, some things in the media have no good to pick out

When it comes to media that is solely about senseless, evil acts of violence or killing, I would argue that you cannot pick any good out of media like that. It can be difficult to pick through the ones we don’t need in our minds, especially when there is so many media sources and unfortunately, such easy access to everything. Not all crime, action, or justice seeking media is bad, and not all movies that state “violence” in the rating are bad either. What we are trying to do, is weed out the kinds of media that is, not throw away all our media entirely.

Things We Can Do To Help Filter Out Some Media From Any of Our Sources:

  1. We can use Parent Guides to review media before watching or listening, such as;
  • Common Sense Media, link here.
  • IMBD Parent’s Guide link here. Any movie we watch, we can look up it’s title and view the Parental reviews for it and it helps us narrow down if it’s a movie we can just look away during certain scenes, or if we should even be watching it at all. There are other review sites, however, these are just a couple we have used in the past.

2. Taking the good and throwing out the bad in the media we do allow in, we can;

  • We can simply turn away, mute the sound, or even just skip a scene!
  • We can send kids out of the room, or have them turn around so they don’t see a scene.

3. When it comes to social medias apps; Carefully look through all the apps, and which ones you will have and will allow your children to have, and go from there!

  • Any social media requires us to pick out the good from the bad
  • Options for this could be, create a private account, limit screen time, and as always, have honest communication between parent and child!
  • Also, we need to be able to help our children identify what’s true and what’s not.

With every category mentioned, although I’ve previously said it already— take the good and throw out the bad. Majority of our media has a lot of both, so we need to be diligent in being able to identify the bad parts! We also need to help our children be able to identify the bad parts on their own, as we cannot always do it for them. They need to be able to learn what the truth is, and how to spot what’s not true. John 14:6 ESV – “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

Lastly, I encourage you to not stop at the scripture I added, but read more and do more searching on your own! If you find that you have to weed out some of your media, great! Weed it out and use this as a teaching moment for your children, if possible. If you have found you don’t need to do much weeding right now, that’s great too! Ultimately, we just need to be watchful of what we put in our minds.

“Part 1: Filtering Through Good and Bad Media” linked here

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“Part 1: Filtering Through Good and Bad Media”

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When it comes to movies, shows, social media, or anything of that sort, we as parents, get worried! We ask ourselves, if this show is too much language, violence, sexual content— what is truly safe or okay for our minds, and our children’s minds? My hope is that you don’t shy away from all media entirely after reading this, but that this can help guide you with what media you do take in!

First, Lets Examine Ourselves:

As parents, we know our children learn and copy things, from us. Whether they are 1 years old copying our head nods and dance moves, or 15 years old copying our attitudes, they do! I can say from experience, that I have copied my parents at times during my childhood and teen years by handling things the way I thought they would have, and I can also say from experience, my own 1 year old daughter copies me! 

Obviously, there will be things that we do as adults our kids will not be able to do until they are older, or adults even. However, with communication and time, they should eventually understand those reasons. But we’re not talking about that. We’re talking about our reasoning as parents, for guidelines on what’s considered safe for their minds and why. As a parent, who is in the beginning of weeding out things for my daughter to watch or listen to, my husband and I have started it with a few questions;

  1. What have I been watching and allowing myself to see?
  2. Is there anything that is not glorifying to God for me to let into my mind whatsoever, in my movies, media, books, etc?
  3. If there is something, why am I continuing to watch/listen to it?
  • is it because it doesn’t bother me physically/emotionally, so I don’t see any reason to stop?
  • is it because it is fun, thrilling, or is enjoyable for me to watch/listen to?

4. What does the Lord say in scripture, about some of the main factors we see in media;

  • Such as sexual content (any sex scenes, insinuative sexual innuendo, intimate couple scenes, nudity, etc), violence (any gruesome, graphic, gore, etc), and negative language (cursing, putting people down— any foul, negative, degrading talk).

We should first pinpoint what it is we have allowed to overstep into our own minds, before we oversee what will overstep in our children’s minds. There will of course, be plenty of media, that we just have to take the good from and throw out the bad; majority of it is like that, but there are also just certain things in the media that has no logical, nor biblical reasons to view or listen to, at all. 

Sexual Content:

One of the things that helps me personally, and that I tend to think of first when it comes to sexual content in any kind of media I will be watching or listening to is; 

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If a couple were doing this in the mall or parking lot, would I just stand and watch them, or would I try not to look, and walk away? Think of it like that, a real scenario where you are actually witnessing 2 people like that, on a random day. Let’s break it down to what we know is true.

When it comes to sexual intimacy in our lives: 

The Lord made sex/sexual intimacy to be a special, beautiful, union between husband and wife, only.

  • Genesis 1:28 ESV “And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
  • Mark 10:6-9 ESV “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

God made sexual intimacy, for us to enjoy in marriage to the fullest!

  • 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 ESV “ The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
  • Any of Song of Solomons is also good example of the blessing of that union in marriage as well, I encourage you to read through that too!

We are not to act in sexual immorality.

  • Matthew 5:27-28 ESV “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
  • I also encourage you to read through Romans 1:18-32
  • 1 Corinthians 6:18-19 ESV ” Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know the body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom who have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

Looking at scripture, we can confirm that any intimacy/sex is meant for a husband and wife to enjoy to the fullest, and that we are not to act in sexual immorality of any sorts. We can agree (I hope) that Pornography is bad, but then we go and watch sexual content and/or sex scenes in “regular” movies, or other media, why is that?

Another way to think of it as, is why would we bring in a third party, or become the third party to someone else’s intimacy, by watching it on a screen, or listening to it?

Does it truly matter, whether a certain sexual scene or scenario bothers us emotionally, or physically? What we should focus on instead, is whether we should be viewing it at all.

I encourage you:

  • To read scripture on what the Lord intends intimacy/sex for, and what is true and not true about it.
  • Then evaluate the media you are allowing into your own mind.
  • Next, evaluate what media you will be allowing your children to view.

When it comes to our kids watching or listening to things, we need to be able to explain to them why we allow certain things and not others, and why we are watching things that we previously gave them a no, on. They need to understand the biblical reasoning behind those decisions, on filtering this, or that and why only certain things need to wait until they get older. Not just for sexual content, but for other things like language and violence as well, which is what we will be discussing next!

To Be Continued…

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“Expecting Another Baby, and Choosing a Home Birth.”

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So, as you have seen from the title of this post, we are expecting another sweet, little baby, coming Spring 2022! We are beyond excited, to bring another baby into this world and for our daughter to finally, have a sibling! It is such a blessing. With our first baby, Beatrice, I had her right when the “pandemic” had pretty much began. We went with a birth center for her, but this time around we will be doing a home birth.

First Pregnancy:

With Beatrice, the pregnancy and birth went wonderfully, and that was all because of the Lord. Although my husband could not come to appointments, until I was half way through it, and there were other potential uncertainties, we held fast to the Lord the entire time, and never once, got anxious over it. The Lord had answered all of our prayers during that pregnancy and the birth, it was such, a blessing. I won’t go into detail over everything, as we want to hold close the more personal things, but the Lord kept us protected, as He always will.

As mentioned above, we went with a birth center and during that time, many labor/delivery places did not allow more than 1-2 support people, in the room with you. I heard of some places not even allowing 1 person- no mother, should ever be forced to give birth, alone. The birth center we were at, when we were there, allowed 2 people. However, before we even got far into the pregnancy, my husband and I had decided, we wanted it to be just us, when our daughter was born.

My focus was always going to be on the Lord for my strength, on getting the baby here safely, and on my husband for my physical/emotional support. We really wanted that special time by ourselves, as a family. I also, just don’t love being put on display for everyone to see, that’s just my personal preference. So, we did not feel the need to have anyone else there, during the birth. It was so sweet, coming home and then introducing our baby to her new aunts/uncles, and her grandparents, as well. We will definitely be doing it this way for a long while! 

Baby Beatrice, holding on to Momma and bunny- fast asleep.

I Encourage You:

We are very blessed to be able to choose, and do a home birth. I know, unfortunately, some people do not have this choice, due to certain medical issues and such, requiring them to need some extra medical care. I just want to encourage you, if you wanted to do home birth, yet can’t during this time; if you’re scared, don’t be! Pray and trust in Jesus, he will keep your family protected. Trust that no matter what happens, we are not meant to stay on this earth. Eventually, we will be with our Lord and Savior, for eternity. I’d say, that is the greatest blessing, and greatest comfort.

Choosing Home Birth:

Originally, I actually did not enjoy the idea of a home birth, at all. I wanted the chaos of labor and delivery, to be somewhere other than my home, so I could come back to my peaceful, quiet house. Also, if I have to be messed with, I would rather be messed with at the birth center, where that happens all the time, and not in the privacy, of my house. But alas! Here I am planning to have my second child, in the sweet privacy of my home. It’s too funny. I have a wonderful midwife though, and thankfully, it was actually someone we already knew and had a relationship built with! To be serious though, our thoughts changed on this because of the dark pressures and demands in everything, involving covid. 

We do not want to be uncomfortable, be pressured to do things, be given incorrect treatment, or even not receive treatment at all, based off a “potential symptom” or a certain “protocol” when we need to focus on our baby and his/her health. We will not allow our child, to be treated, or mistreated, against our will as his/her parents either, due to the healthcare system having their specific “protocols.” So, for our safety, and the safety of our child; we are choosing to do a home birth, as that gives us the comfort and freedom, we are looking for and desire.

With how things have gone, so many have been treated unfairly, because the medical facilities don’t agree with a patients (or employee’s) views on certain things, or they are just stuck following their, once again, “protocols”. Apparently, people have got to know the complete medical immunization (and political) history of everyone and their dog, all so they can bully you into an oblivion— unless of course! it’s in line with their own views.

Ultimately though, no matter what happens with me, or with you if you are also going through pregnancy right now; the Lord is with us, and our children

We did not choose to do home birth out of fear, We chose to do home birth, because we simply will not be forced, or have rights stripped away from us, or our child. We fear the Lord, not the government or any mandate, that it throws out. Because ultimately, without question, it is Jesus Christ, who has more power than anyone, or anything on earth. So lastly, I will leave you with some scripture!

Acts 5:29 ESV “But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.”

1 Corinthians 10:31 ESV “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

Philippians 4:6-7 ESV “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”