We went to a Pumpkin Patch, this weekend. It was a really sunny day, and perfect weather; so many families were out and about. For us, personally (although, this is likely true, for most of us) it’s been so long since we have actually seen little ones running around outside, in the fresh air, and actually seeing their whole faces, while doing so. I’m happy to say, that the majority of the people there, you could see their whole face! and whatever emotion it portrayed. Lately, I’ve had family on my mind a lot, as I’m sure most of us have. Not just my own relatives, but families in general.
With what is happening in the world right now, I’ve heard quite often, people’s fears of bringing children into this world at a moment like this, and how they just don’t want to, at all. Another I’ve heard, is that they are scared for the children they do have. I know, as a parent, I do not want my daughter to ever suffer in her life, but I also know that we all endure something. Children are a gift, and they are a blessing from the Lord.
Psalms 127:3 ESV “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.”
We are all placed on this earth with a purpose; even our tiny, little (or big) children. The Lord doesn’t bring someone here, without a purpose. No matter what is going on around us, what the world looks like, whatever we predict the outcome to be in the future; any child placed here, is here for a reason.
2 Timothy 1:9 ESV “who saved us and called us to a holy calling, not because of our works but because of his own purpose and grace, which he gave us in christ Jesus before the ages began.”
Romans 8:28 ESV “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.”
If you want children, do not be afraid, pray, and wait on the Lord’s answer. If, a child is the Lord’s will, hewill make it happen! If you already have children, equip them with scripture and guide them best you can. Lastly, just always remember to seek the Lord, and rebuke the enemy. That’s the best advice I got, for you!
2 Timothy 1:7 ESV “for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”
There are people out there, making life-altering decisions, because of fear.
There are also people out there, making life-altering decisions,out of a fight against fear.
Pray for all of them, and for any children they may be bringing into this world (or any children whom are already here).
While I know this was shorter than usual, that is all the encouragement, I have for right now. However, there will be more things to come, in the near future! Currently, I have been just focusing on doing things one step at a time, enjoying the busyness of life, and having quality time with my little family, when we have the time.
Jeremiah 29:11 ESV “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
More and more, I’m hearing even in Christian places, that we need to tell our girls (or kids in general) that phrase, “you are enough.” That they are perfect, just the way they are. Sounds harmless enough right? Well, I don’t think so. We are truly not enough, on our own. That is the whole reason we have and need Jesus as our Savior, because wewouldcrashandburnwithoutHim. If you want to tell your children that they are enough, don’t forget to add it’s only through, and with Jesus that, that is true. Not on our own, and not because of ourselves, but because of Him.
We are only made enough, and made whole when we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. Only then, are we washed clean of our horrible sins.
Worth Mentioning, To Our Daughters:
The Lord will lead you before any man will, and He always will. So, put your trust in Him, if you’re worried about not finding the “love of your life.”
Don’t revolve around men, in your searching. Revolve around a man, the Lord Jesus Christ.
We should never become unequally yoked with a man, because we gave up our search for a Godly one. Do not settle for someone, who isn’t a God-fearing man.
Don’t mix up perfect, and Godly, as the same thing, because it surely, is not. Don’t look for a perfect man; there isn’t one.
Creating relationship with God, and then searching for a good, Godly man to marry and start a family with, is how we should use our time of singleness.
Jesus is what makes us whole, not ourselves, anything, or anybody on earth will fill that gap.
If you are struggling with sexual temptations, do not try to fight it all on your own, call upon the Lord for help, and seek help from those close to you, so they can keep you accountable in your actions and pray for you!
Notes, For The Parents:
Always leave the door open for children to ask questions about anything.
Encourage the whys, and encourage the hows! Even if you have to do research on the answers!
Our children will gain confidence in their faith, through our confidence in challenging the word of the world, against the word of God. We just have to show them!
Put in the work, and research the answers to the tough questions they ask! They need to see us as a Christian, try.
Them waiting a little bit for an answer, is much better than a pointless, quick reply to get them out of your hair.
They are going to need that, because their faith will be tested.
Teach them the truth, before the world can teach the lies.
One Truth, and One God, Jesus Christ.
There is one truth, and one God. Everyone is always saying “what is your truth?” how do you, define things? It’s all about you; how you feel, and what you want. The world is becoming more and more selfish, as time goes on— relying on feelings to dictate decisions, and it has masked it to look like, compassion. If you are found disagreeing with “their truth,” you are outcasted as a person of hatred with little, to no compassion for others. That is a lie, straight out of hell. Unfortunately, the easiest way to make friends and relationships, is to agree, condone, or accept “their truth.” It can be very difficult to make friends, if you do not, do that.
I encourage you,
Do not give into the lie that is “you are not loving”, or even christianly, when you tell someone they are being sinful, against the Lord. If you see someone acting in sin, encourage them to stop, pray, and repent. If we allow feelings of “they will hate me, if I say they are wrong”, or “they will be so hurt with what I have to say.” etc, to dictate how we do things, we will surely be lost. Jesus probably hurt many feelings, when he told the truth.
Matthew 9:12 (ESV) “but when he heard it, he said, “those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick.” I encourage you to read this chapter, in Matthew! We always hear that Jesus is “a friend of sinners”. He walked among them, and ate with them, but I don’t think he was a, by definition “friend“. At least not until they allowed him to change, their hearts and started following him. In this, it talks about him sitting with tax collectors, he refers to himself as “a physician helping the sick”. Maybe I’ll keep this topic for another time, but it is something to ponder over, and research more on!
I believe we can be honest, and kind at the same time. “Short term pain, long term gain.” Someone, somewhere, said that phrase and it stuck with me. Better to be hurt temporarily by the truth, than to hurt forever, because of a sin. so, teach or continue teaching your girls to be bold in their faith, and to be kind while doing it!
I think this is extremely important, for our children to know. As our daughters make friends and create relationships, they need to know to keep their faith in Jesus the top priority. Not to cower, or let go of the Lord’s word just to make a friendship, or to keep a relationship. If it means letting go of people to stay faithful, then so be it. It hurts, I understand all too well, but it may be necessary.
Another, Matthew 16:23 (ESV) “But he turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me. For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man.” Now, I am not saying to go around calling everyone the devil, but I am pointing out Jesus, did not hesitate to put Peter back in his place, when he saw he was in the wrong. Can you imagine, during that time especially, calling someone “the devil” must have been a huge shock to the system!
While “the truth can hurt” is a cliche phrase, it isn’t wrong. Sometimes it is really hard to hear, that we are being sinful, or in error. I would personally, much rather be told to look at the destruction I’m causing and try to fix it, than live like that without knowing, and face God’s wrath, because of it. Although, unfortunately some people will still knowingly choose destruction, regardless.
Lets teach our girls, to not rely on feelings, to make a decision. Feelings do not always line up, even when a correct decision is made, and even when we have compassion fora situation. Our own desires (whether Godly ones, or not) do not even always line upwith what God says, or His plans for us! We need to always rely on the Lord, and the Lord’s word. You can still care for someone and disagree with them, and you can completely desire something like a marriage, for example, and that may not be the Lord’s plan for you. So I encourage you, just trust Him, and do not worry about tomorrow!
Teach your children to be skeptical! The Lord encourages us to test everything! (so test what I’m saying too!) and that especially means testing things that seem God-sent! Even the Devil knows the Bible (and knows the churches), even he can make you feel calm, and nice inside.
1 Thessalonians 5:21 ESV “but test everything; hold fast to what is good.”
We are born into sin, yes, but because of God we do not have to give in, to sin.
There are a couple topics I will touch on again in the future, individually, but in due time! I’m sure you have tons to bring up about raising Godly, young men and how they should also be brought up, because I do too! but that is set aside for a whole other discussion as well. Presently, my husband and I don’t even have a son, although we both hope too one day! However, regardless of that, I will write about raising young men too! So, hold tight to the Lord, and be bold in faith, because young girls (and even young guys) need to see that kind of fearlessness, right now.
Men and women are made for each other. Women are not made for women, and men are not made for men. Women can give birth and become mothers; men cannot. Men, can become fathers, they can go out and work hard, grueling hours of painful, physical labor; women cannot. We were not made to go out to do what men do, or even try to be a father to our children. Men are not meant to try to be the mothers either. We [women] were made to do what we are specifically designed for; Wifehood, motherhood, caretaking, nurturing, homemaking etc.
I’m not a feminist whatsoever. I will not agree with, or raise my daughter(s) to stand for something that takes away the exact thing it thinks its standing for; femininity. We don’t have to be naked to be feminine. We don’t have to hate men, to be feminine, and we shouldn’t idolize ourselves as “a goddess” like this world promotes, so often. We should not promote such things to our girls. We are beautiful already and we are very strong, in our own ways. We are not men, and we are definitely not a god.
Why do women have to make it a competition against men, on “who is better?”
Are women so insecure about themselves, that they feel the need to become men, or to prove they are better than? or even just to prove they are better than everyone (men and women) by trying to become something, entirely made up?
Not Made To Be The Same:
Men and women are not made to be the same, both have strengths that the other does not. That is the beauty of the entire thing! That’s one of the many reasons why a man and a woman are meant to be together. They compliment each other the exact way, God intended them to. Ephesians 5:31 (ESV) “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
The blessing that we have as women to carry a child, and have our bodies go through those processes (our cycles, our pregnancies, and even through our struggles with both); be encouraged in that, because a man could never do that! If you’re a man be encouraged in the hard work you do to provide and protect your family; be encouraged in being the head of the house, that you can father your children, because a woman could never take the place of a dad!
As a woman, I am so grateful to my husband for doing that painful, hard, physical labor and being a father to our child. It is a true blessing and God-given privilege to have someone who protects us and provides for our family. A woman is meant to be cared for by a husband who protects and provides for her and their children. The Lord intended for there to be that unity, of marriage and family. It’s a true, blessing. Now, this isn’t to say that people who are living as celibate for example, aren’t blessed, if you love the Lord as your savior, then you’re already blessed! Marriage isn’t what brings forth blessings into your life, the Lord is who brings the blessings, into your life.
I will raise my daughter to know that men are the leaders of families and we honor them as such. I will also teach her, that a God-fearing man will honor and respect a woman as the delicate, yet strong heir of the grace of life that we are.
– 1 Peter 3:7 (ESV) “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
– Ephesians 5:22 (ESV) “Wives submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”
– Eph 5:25 (ESV) “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,”
– Titus 2:4-5 (ESV) “and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands that the word of God may not be reviled.”
This scripture in Titus, goes on to talk about sons as well, but that is not what we are discussing today. All of these verses I used, are ones I’ve personally heard people use when they are arguing against men and women’s specificcommands, from the Lord.
Breaking Down The Verses:
I know alot of people just think that the Bible says that women are weak, submissive, and all they do is slave away to men. In reality, that is far from the truth.
Women are held, and should be held in honor and respect, as it says! When God grants that authority to men (or authority to anyone in general) it is always for the blessing of protection of those under it. Anybody who uses their God-given authority to their own advantage at the cost of those under it, will have to answer to the Lord who gave it to them in the first place; men, government, anyone.
Most people just see “women— weak.” If you have the biblical understanding that men are the leaders of their families, then you should be able to understand that when it says “weaker vessel” it is because we are physically weaker, than men. It also says, we are heirs. Men are supposed to show honor to the women, because we are the heirs of the grace of life with them, how can we always skip over that part?
The commands given to the men, are for a husband tolove his wife (Ephesians 5:25, ESV). When the husband’s authority is mentioned here, it is simply stated as a fact, not a command. The Lord didn’t say “husbands, go practice your authority over your wives” He did say “love your wives.”
From a biblical perspective, women are to be the mothers, caretakers, and homemakers. While the men are to be the fathers, providers, and protectors. Both are to be honored and respected.
We [women] are put under our husband’s authority, because they are meant to be the head of the house just, as Christ is the head of the church (Ephesians5:23). If both husband and wife focus on their God-given responsibilities to one another, and take care of their relationship, there will be peace, and not a war between the two. Obviously, we are not a sinless, perfect people, but the point of this is, biblical women are not meant to be “slaves”, and biblical men are not meant to be their abuser.
As well as, only men are meant to be the father, just as only women are meant to be the mother, of their family.
So when we raise our daughters up, let’s teach them, and show them how to be the wife theLordhasintendedforus to be. If you are a husband and father, teach and show your daughters how the Lord intended a Godly man to be as well! As we teach our daughters about wifehood and motherhood, it is not just us moms, but the dads too, that need to show them a great example of what a husband and wife should be. We mustprovidea Godly example of these things, to our children!
The world is not going to do it for us, let alone, help us in any way.
Always watch yourself, because we shouldn’t become prideful; we are not perfect either. That’s what the verse is saying in Matthew 7:3 (ESV) “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye?” This verse reminds usthat we are all sinners, we all make sinful errors. So do not become self-righteous, and remember that you were bought with a price; Jesus dying on the cross, for our sins.
We however, must still confront sins.
Give them the truth, whether they feel like hearing it, or not.
Did Jesus stay silent amongst sinners, because he didn’t want to hurt their feelings or risk them feeling disrespected? No. He told them the truth even if it meant losing that “potential follower.” Nothing stopped him from doing the Lord’s work, not even people walking away from Him. Why should we allow a relationship, potentially departing from us, stop us from doing the Lord’s work?
These are things we need to make sure is not happening especially, before we commit to something, like a marriage. In that case, you both need to be walking towards the Lord— both putting God first, or else you are setting yourselves up to potentially fail, that marriage.
Maybe you’re saying, “well, our kids won’t have any friends, if they do this.” Sadly, this very well may be true, but ask yourself what is more important for them;
To have relationship with their current best friends? or to have relationship with Jesus?
In God we have an eternal friend, and if in being bold in yourfaith, you lose your earthly friends or even some family members, isn’t something like that always making room for something better? Maybe new friends, or maybe something bigger, that God has planned, for your life?
We, as parents, have the duty to make the best decisions we can for our children until they are not under our house anymore, but even then it is still our duty to advise them, and remind themof God’s word, the only difference when they have reached adulthood, they may not take and use all of your advice. Maybe just bits and pieces, or maybe not any of it. Having an adult child, is not an excuse to not give them the advice, and not advise them against sins.
Proverbs 22:6 (ESV) “Train up a child the way he should go, even when he is old he shall not depart from it.”
You are still Someone’s Child— Adult or Not:
Just as it is our duty, to honor our parents. That does not stop when we reach “adulthood.” Esphesians 6:1-2 (ESV) “Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise),” We are to always give honor to our parents. Obviously, as we become adults, get married and have our own children, we can make our own choices and make our own decisions for our own family. However, wemust always honor our parents, as our parents.
To You, Who Have Big Hearts:
I guess lastly, I want to discuss you people out there, who honestly are like most people. You have big hearts. You’re loving, and so compassionate. I personally know a few people who would continue to give you anything, until it killed them, just because God calls us to love. It is wonderful, to see so much passion, and empathy for others, as well as seeing someone take on that commandment from the Lord, so eagerly.
The issue to this is, Most people like this struggle deeply, with rejection. They fear making someone else potentiallyfeel rejected or unloved, because they were hurt by that so much themselves, that they usually just allow those people to walk on them, instead. How could someone reject you, after you just gave them so much love and compassion, right? and so what happens that i’ve seen, is they keep this vicious, cycle going. They spin in circles, where they keep pouring love, and pouring the gospel into something/someone that will throw it away every time, because of their unwillingness to listen. Or another scenario, the vicious cycle is, you are not pouring the gospel into someone, to prevent them from feeling hurt. Whatever the issue, and however you’re handling it, give this fight to God.
Love is not a feeling. Why do we rely on our feelings, to show us what love is? When we base love, off of how we feel or how we make others feel, we are setting ourselves up to never understand the love of God, and eventually might even reject Him, because he won’t always make us feel great. Sometimes following Him, will be tough. How will we withstand those hard places when we base love off of our ever-changing emotions?
Fruitful, and Fruitless:
If your children can understand, talk with them about this issue and decision, use this as a teaching moment, and ask them questions. Do not end up, subconsciously teaching them to chase people who throw the gospel away, or to base what love is off emotions. Teach them to show the love of Christ to everyone, but to only pursue any friendship or relationship with those who have willing hearts to listen. Like I said before, they [children] are the most vulnerable, so let’s help them to identify fruitful and fruitless relationships.
Have them do the thinking and problem solving, see what answers they come up with. Teaching them using real life, is a great way to help them problem-solve independently, getting them ready for the world when they are older, and have their own family to make decisions with. Talk with them about fruitful relationships and why we should keep them close, and fruitless relationships and why we should not keep them close. This should not change, if it happens to be family members who are involved. The Lord has told us to be watchful of who we surround ourselves with. 1 Corinthians 15:33 (ESV) “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”Proverbs is also a great place to read, for more guidance on this.
Matthew 15:13-14 (ESV) “He answered, “Every plant that my Heavenly Father has not planted will be rooted up. Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”
Matthew 7:6 (ESV) “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.”
If i’m honest, I don’t have the answer to how people can be so full of anger, and hate. I still struggle sometimes trying to understand how God could even send his only Son for us, knowing how sinful, we truly are. But I do know, that the Lord will never do that with us, If we accept Him, He will never forsake us. (Hebrews 13:5-6 ESV). I encourage you,tell someone when you see them struggling, talk it out and remind them you would like to help,but do not push your faith in God, or God’s word to the side lines in order to cater to their feelings, or to yours.
Proverbs 27:17 (ESV) “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
To Think About:
With discussing that, what relationship should you be worried about? The one you have with them? or the one you have with God?
If you are worried this person, or these people, will never speak to you again or even hate you, because of you shining a light on the truth, you should re-examine your relationship with them, altogether. That does not sound like a fruitful relationship you should keep close, nor allow or advise your children to keep close either.
We need to encourage our children to have “close when fruitful, far when fruitless” type of relationships. Especially, right now.
We need to be able to guide our children, so they understand their faith in Jesus Christ should and does, matter more than anything. We also need to be able to help them when they potentially lose relationships, due to their faith in Christ and are feeling discouraged through that. We are to be salt and light of the world. We cannot be the world’s friend, and the friend of God, at the same time.
Colossians 4:6 (ESV) “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”
Matthew 5:13 (ESV) “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet.”
How can we guide our children, to stand firm in faith and lift others up?
Through leading a Godly example, even through our errors.
As parents, we know our children’s maturity level, as well as what they can, and can’t grasp. Guide them through the Bible at the pace you think is best for them to understand fully, and go from there. The Bible is at a 3rd grade reading level, so even if you are worried, thinking “even I don’t know the Bible that well.” It’s not too late, at all. I encourage you, to just dive in and learn with your children!
To end it here, I’m not saying go up to people who are obviously sinning, and tell them they are going to hell. That would not be a beneficial conversation, for either of you. Start conversations with genuine questions like, “Why do you think that?” and “What do you mean by that?”. Draw out their perspective and their why’s, and then tell them what the Lord says about it. Keep conversations fruitful and calm as much as possible, and if it’s not staying that way, I encourage you to end the conversation there. Maybe try again at a different time when tempers are gone, or leave them be entirely. But again, always speak the truth. Don’t ever dim it down, don’t hide it, and don’t ignore itfor someone, or yourself.
And, remember the sacrificeGod made, only for us;
John 3:16-18 (ESV) “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.
I have a great friend, we’ve been friends for a few years now, and go out to talk at least once every couple months! We will call her Jane (not her real name). Jane, knows of God, and of Christianity, but we personally, don’t really ever talk about biblical things. I went over to her house this last week, and walked in on something, horrifying. I walked in on her with a needle that was just about to go into her right arm.
I obviously panicked, and asked what was going on and she says this, “Jo, you are the only Christian friend I have and If you loved me, you would let me be and just accept this. If you do, you won’t have to worry about our relationship changing. I mean, as a Christian you’re supposed to be loving anyways, right?”
She continued, “If you don’t accept me like this, its going to break my heart to be judged so harshly, by you. I won’t see you as my friend anymore, and honestly we will never speak again. Please just be a good friend to me, and don’t say anything. I don’t want to lose our relationship, you weren’t supposed to see this anyways.”
What if this happened to you or your child, What advice would you give them? What would you do?
While this is not a true story for me; for some people, it may be.
I have seen people, go through similar things. Different addictions, different desires that had taken control. Our children, need us to help them build confidence in their faith, to withstand these kinds of peer pressuring, manipulativepeople that they will more than likely come across, at least once in their lifetime. Allowing yourself or your children to have close relationships with people who try to entice you to leave your faith at the side lines for their feelings and for their sins, is extremely risky. Telling someone they are in the wrong, and offering them help to get them out of that sin, is plenty biblical. We are to confront sin, and help fellow sinners, by lifting them up! But we can’t be a friend of the world, and a friend of God.
Personally, if this exact scenario happened to me, I would tell her this;
“Jane, I don’t know what happened to you, but listen to me now, this is not right, this is a sin, you could die doing this and It’s not honoring to the Lord. I can help you find resources, I can pray for you, we can find other people to help you. You can hate me if you want to, you can tell me to walk out and never come back, but it doesn’t change the fact that this is sinful, and harmful.”
If you lose that relationship in the process, then God will mend your hurting heart. We cannot succumb to encouraging/condoning someone’s sins, or tolerating their sins for the sake of keeping a relationship with them. Jesus did not tolerate sin, He tolerated sinners. Humans commit sins, but have been able to repent, and be washed clean of them, only because Jesus died on the cross for His children; us.
Wouldn’t we tell our children to say something, to speak up and try to help even with the risk of losing that friend forever? and if the answer is no, then Why?
Surely our Relationship with God, is more important than a relationship here on earth. We cannot save someone who does not want to be saved, and we definitely will not do it better than God himself. So yes, try to help and pray, but don’t chase people who are not willing, and who are continuously throwing your efforts and the gospel, in the trash. Let God work in them, because at that point there is truly nothing else we can do, but take a step back from their destruction, get your children away from their destruction, pray and be still..
When we put God first in our marriage, it thrives.
When we put God first in our friendships, they thrive.
When we put God first, *fill in the blank* will thrive.
This is not to say we as Christians are so, utterly perfect, we still make plenty of mistakes. It will be difficult to tell someone (that you hold very dear), that there is another option than this sin, it is accepting the Lord Jesus as their savior and repenting of what they are doing, like that [example of] a horrible addiction mentioned above, because He is the way to eternal life, and not death. Those who go against God, hate the truth and they hate those who speak it.
Compassion isn’t ignoring truth, it’s speaking truth, even if people hate it. Do not get it twisted, that in order to be compassionate and loving, you cannot confront their sins, because it’s “not your place.” That is absolutely not the case, and it’s not what Jesus encouraged or exemplified. We can be gentle and honest at the same time.
Judge the sin, but do not judge the sinner, who committed it.
I know first hand, how difficult it is to have loved ones become harmful, and to have to break away from those relationships, especially when it’s to protect your children. Because they have either rejected the Lord, or they do know him, yet, do not care enough to acknowledge they are sinning against Him. I still don’t understand how someone can reject the Lord and His goodness, as well as cast hate upon him and people who love him, so easily. Family or friend, protect yourchildren from having close relationships that are fruitless, and destructive.Ourchildren are the most vulnerable.
We need to stop saying things so predominantly and broad like we have been– such as, “Don’t judge, judging is bad!” As a Christian, it is our place to say “Hey, this is not honoring to God, and is a sin that you should not continue committing. We can pray together, and find resources to help you break away from this, but it needs to stop.” As well as, point them in the Bible, to where it clarifies that it isn’t honoring to the Lord.
Doing things like this, can be seenas judging someone, especially to people who want to be affirmed in their sin, and affirmed in their feelings. Regrettably, we all have done that; wanted to be told we are right, just because something hurt our feelings. I know that I have, many times. Where they are saying things like “if you loved me, you wouldn’t do this!” If it is something that goes against God and His word, than it is very much our place to say so,and to offer them a helping hand in breaking free from such! They should do the same for you as well, when they see you fall and stumble in your walk of faith.
– Don’t forget what we are fighting; not the sinner, the sin.
Ephesians 6:12 (ESV) “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”
If you are afraid to confront sin, to have confrontations, or just afraid of rejection. Maybe you’re just utterly afraid to hurt someone, even while knowing it’s the truth you are speaking. I encourage you to read these verses and then both of these chapters, fully.
Psalm 94:14 (ESV) “For the Lord will not forsake his people; he will not abandon his heritage;”
Ephesians 4:15 (ESV) “ Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into christ,”
Test the word before you confront someone about a potential sin, making sure that this is something that is truly not honoring to the Lord, and is actually causing them to stumble before God. We are meant to lift our brothers/sisters in Christ up, not tear them down. Point them to the truth, and pray for them, regardless if the truth is horribly unappealing to the ears to hear, say it anyways. That, is far from tearing them down. I even encourage you, if they don’t agree with you and think you’re absolutely absurd, have them point out in the Bible where what they are doing, stands for being honoring to God. Talk this out, and pray for each other. Something like this shouldn’t really be a short conversation. It may not be an easy one, either.
John 14:6 (ESV) “Jesus said to him, I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
2 Timothy 2:24-26 (ESV) ”And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.”
1 Thessalonians 5:21 (ESV) “But test everything; hold fast to what is good.
James 5:16 (ESV) “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”
Bringing the bible into those conversations, pointing out what part of the scriptures that makes you so firmly believe whatever they are doing goes against God, will help immensely; rather than you just saying “oh, it’s cause the bible says so.” However, this is not an opportunity to become prideful, and self-righteous over someone who is struggling. While we are saved by the grace of God (once we accept Jesus into our hearts), we all still make sinful errors and we must remember, we are called to lift others up. This is what we discuss next.