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“Preparing For, and Choosing to Homeschool.”

Most of these books are linked below! However all are good reads!

Why We Want to Homeschool:

If you think about it, we have been teaching since our babies were born. It makes sense to just keep the ball rolling. Personally, I believe it’s our duty, as parents to guide children in all ways. Towards the Lord, and through life. I don’t believe the world is doing a very good job at such, or that it should be doing that job at all. We can’t rely on others to teach our children, while we sit back and watch. Our schools are taking it upon themselves, to teach its worldly views, and to install into our children’s minds that they are anything, but the image of God

Now please note, that’s not to say that every teacher is bad, or that your kid is going to come out of it with no smarts or even that they will leave their faith after, but I do think the schools highly encourage all of that. I know Christian people who went to public school and turned out just fine. However, we need to be the ones equipping our children with a strong, Godly foundation before the world tries to equip them with it’s faithless, lies. I don’t believe putting children in public school is encouraging their Christian walk, or that it is beneficial for our kids at all. Why are we as parents, scared to take them away from the danger that public school holds? We our their parents, and we are their teachers. Not the government, and not the schools.

Nothing in the school system being taught, is something that as a Christian, I can agree with. So, I will not put my children into it. While I do have honest, personal opinions, I’m not attacking those who chose to put their kids in public schools. If that is what you chose, or are choosing to do, then that is your choice as their parent! I just highly encourage you to think about why you are, and what your child will gain from it’s teachings. You don’t have to have a fancy college degree, to be successful. Lots of billionaires have proved that, already. Beside’s my obvious distain against public schools, I do just personally love homeschooling. My husband and I both have been homeschooled in the past, and want to with our children, as well. 

If you have decided to do public school;

I just encourage you parents, to give your children constant guidance along the way, because it will be very difficult for them, as a Christian! I encourage you to be very communicative with your children about what is being taught daily, and what the Lord says about it! Young children especially! If you don’t agree with the schools, but don’t know what else to do, there are plenty of homeschool groups that will gladly help you! and the Lord will guide you, so have no fear! If they have little to no guidance from you, how will they ever combat the worldly lies that they are being taught with in and from schools?

How We Are Prepping:

Right now, we have one, almost one year old. I personally like to somewhat plan ahead if not a full plan, then at least most of one. So while our daughter is still anxiously trying to learn to talk more, walk and run, I am anxiously trying to prepare for what we will do for her major homeschooling! I have read a few books while I was pregnant and on a side note, during pregnancy is when I found out I actually do enjoy reading books! Anyways, the books I read were so good! I will list a few down below that I would recommend to anyone. 

Homeschooling or not, I definitely think the ones listed for the mothers will help any parent, (especially those who have their kids in public schools).

As of right now, it’s more so just lots of reading to her, following along on others journey’s in homeschooling, listening to songs while we play, and looking at different curriculums/ideas to teach. I see homeschooling as much more than just math, english, history, etc. It’s complete guidance, in general that we are giving our children. So when I research, I’m researching how to guide Godly children, not just ideas for the required classes, at home.

When I was homeschooled, my mother had followed the traditional school year’s schedule, but I have heard many others just make their own schedule that worked for them. It all depends on what, and how you want to do it. Some only did certain “classes” one day a week, while others did the same “class” 3-4 days a week. Honestly, you can do whatever, because the options are unlimited with teaching from home.

Books I Recommend For The Moms:

Culture-proof kids linked here! Great book and I highly recommend both parents read it! It’s on Amazon, along with these others shown below!

Great read to better understand what the Founding Fathers were doing for the US and to learn some of our country’s history.
So great for homeschooling mamas!
Will always recommend this one, for any mama
This book, is great for both parents. Perfect conversation starter between parents and kids!

Books I Recommend For The Kids: Mostly fun ones!

We love all of these stories, for our Beatrice!
What we are reading to learn the ABC’S, and it’s also a song!
Going to get for our little one, soon!
A bible for kids, we have bought this one as well!

Reading these books really gave me great ideas, and encouraged me as a mom. I know I will be (and have already) referring back to them later in the future. Books will be our main source of teaching/learning for a long while. They are already something we enjoy doing to teach our daughter now! Reading is such a simple, efficient way of teaching them, because you can read anything. If you have a kid (or kids) you know how much they soak things in. I believe the phrase is, “children are like a sponge.”  So let’s provide them with all the goods to soak up!

Whether you have a kid, or you are trying to prepare because it’s in the near future, I encourage you to read! You might find you actually like it, if you don’t already. We are major influences on our children, that is a fact. They are more likely to pick up a book, or at least want you to read it to them, if they are too young to read it themselves. I can’t wait to pick out more books as time goes on, and our Beatrice gets older. So don’t mind me, periodically sharing a stack of books for kids and their moms here and there!

Family

“Part 3: Young Mom.”

We got through the first two topics, here we are at being a “young mom.” I’ve always known I would be a mom. I grew up with lots of siblings, so maybe that encouraged it, but I’m confident it was always going to be that way, regardless. A stay-at-home mom specifically, is going to be the topic. One who chooses to be at home 24/7 taking care of the kids and house, although she could go and work in any career. I became a mom, when I had our baby just after my 19th birthday!

Becoming a Mom, Among Friends:

Being pregnant while hanging out with groups of friends is difficult, mainly for physical limitations during activities, but it was also just hard to relate to everyone. I still could have conversations of course, but it was hard to find a common, relatable topic between us. We couldn’t really relate to each other anymore. Not many people are married and pregnant at 18 for one, and even the ones who wanted that in the future, were not quite yet interested in conversations that consist of such. Eventually, the friends that were more so acquaintances in a group of many, began to dissipate to go do other things, as did I.

I am a bigger fan of small, close-knit groups, rather than big groups of people you only have small talk with anyways. My husband is the opposite ironically, and loves big groups. The main reason people go to group activities with their friends is because they all relate in some way and enjoy doing whatever the activity is. You can have friends that are in different phases of life, but I think it’s good to also have friends who you can relate with as well. I think it’s just a matter of finding a new balance among them, through big changes in life.

Priorities change:

I’ve heard this from many, even my husband felt this way, that women feel more like a parent earlier in the pregnancy, due to carrying the child and having the physical effects. Where as the man, usually starts feeling the impact when he can feel the baby move, see it on ultrasounds, and then obviously the birth. The point is, usually the woman is treated as a parent earlier, so you get the effects of certain changes sooner. That’s what happened with us anyways. My friendships changed and/or just drifted apart a lot sooner than his did, just because some of the friends and I just couldn’t relate anymore. Our priorities were changing, but as they should! 

Thoughts:

I think that change is a part of life, and it’s not bad that having a baby changed relationships with certain people and didn’t with others. That is just how life works, when a big moment in your life happens. That shouldn’t scare you into not doing it at all though. Being a mom is an important job. It is the best job a woman can do! Becoming a mother, while young was a decision my husband and I made confidently, that it wouldn’t have mattered what people would have said anyways. The Lord loves children, He says they are a blessing! We should never treat them as a burden or curse.

Nevertheless, I know some people disagreed or thought it was crazy when I got pregnant. Getting married so quickly, it was obvious some people thought it was only because we had already gotten pregnant. Regardless, it was expected to happen, if I wasn’t already. Most people’s opinions this time around fell silent, nothing discouraging, but nothing encouraging either, which wasn’t all that bad. Try not to let people who are negative about becoming a mom, weigh in on your decision. I’m keeping the reminder on here, that everyone has different timing in life, and don’t discourage becoming a mom entirely if that’s what someone desires. The world does that enough for everyone already! Biblically speaking, I don’t think it’s wrong at all and I encourage starting your family as a young adult, if that’s what you and your husband want, and if possible of course.

Highly recommend this book. SO good!

Family:

It changes your entire perspective on things, watching someone grow and to be able to teach them about life. Planning to have or having any more than 3 kids, having them quick, and having them young is all (most times) considered, odd. My question is, why does it have to be? I don’t think it has to be considered a bad decision, or a regretful one, so long as you keep walking towards the Lord with the decisions you make. As for friends, I still have a couple great friends who aren’t in the same boat as me. In fact are younger, going into college and focusing on school! So it’s definitely possible to have and make it work with friends who are doing different things, but the point of this is, don’t be surprised to find that you lose some, and make new friends when you start having a family.

Overall:

It will be inevitable to drift from certain people, but it’s usually making room for new people to come into your life! That’s one of the reasons I made this is because I know the struggles of finding people who relate. Most 20 year old women, aren’t really starting families with their husbands, not in my area anyways! In my opinion there should be more young women and men getting married and starting their families, especially in the Christian community! but that is just my opinion.

Big decisions, cause big changes, and it’s not always a bad thing! Your family will automatically become your [new] top priority, if it wasn’t already! That’s one thing my husband and I talked through before marriage, was how do we see ourselves raising our kids? Are there differences, or are we on the same page? That was so beneficial to communicate beforehand, instead of pushing it off to do later, after marriage. There are obvious things that we wouldn’t know until having a baby, but we needed to be on the same page, all the same.

Like I said before, is there really a reason to wait if it’s something you want anyways? Beside’s certain physical or health limitations, why wait? If you’re waiting for the “perfect time,” It’s probably never going to be “the perfect time.” As my husband always says, “there will always be reasons or excuses, not to.” Regardless of when you have kids though, just know that they are a true blessing, and it’s okay for things to change around you.