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“Part 1: What Do I Do With The Truth, and How Do I Help My Children With It?”

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I have a great friend, we’ve been friends for a few years now, and go out to talk at least once every couple months! We will call her Jane (not her real name). Jane, knows of God, and of Christianity, but we personally, don’t really ever talk about biblical things. I went over to her house this last week, and walked in on something, horrifying. I walked in on her with a needle that was just about to go into her right arm.

I obviously panicked, and asked what was going on and she says this, “Jo, you are the only Christian friend I have and If you loved me, you would let me be and just accept this. If you do, you won’t have to worry about our relationship changing. I mean, as a Christian you’re supposed to be loving anyways, right?”

She continued, “If you don’t accept me like this, its going to break my heart to be judged so harshly, by you. I won’t see you as my friend anymore, and honestly we will never speak again. Please just be a good friend to me, and don’t say anything. I don’t want to lose our relationship, you weren’t supposed to see this anyways.”

What if this happened to you or your child, What advice would you give them? What would you do?

While this is not a true story for me; for some people, it may be.

 I have seen people, go through similar things. Different addictions, different desires that had taken control. Our children, need us to help them build confidence in their faith, to withstand these kinds of peer pressuring, manipulative people that they will more than likely come across, at least once in their lifetime. Allowing yourself or your children to have close relationships with people who try to entice you to leave your faith at the side lines for their feelings and for their sins, is extremely risky. Telling someone they are in the wrong, and offering them help to get them out of that sin, is plenty biblical. We are to confront sin, and help fellow sinners, by lifting them up! But we can’t be a friend of the world, and a friend of God.

Personally, if this exact scenario happened to me, I would tell her this;

“Jane, I don’t know what happened to you, but listen to me now, this is not right, this is a sin, you could die doing this and It’s not honoring to the Lord. I can help you find resources, I can pray for you, we can find other people to help you. You can hate me if you want to, you can tell me to walk out and never come back, but it doesn’t change the fact that this is sinful, and harmful.”

If you lose that relationship in the process, then God will mend your hurting heart. We cannot succumb to encouraging/condoning someone’s sins, or tolerating their sins for the sake of keeping a relationship with them. Jesus did not tolerate sin, He tolerated sinners. Humans commit sins, but have been able to repent, and be washed clean of them, only because Jesus died on the cross for His children; us.

Wouldn’t we tell our children to say something, to speak up and try to help even with the risk of losing that friend forever? and if the answer is no, then Why?

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Surely our Relationship with God, is more important than a relationship here on earth.  We cannot save someone who does not want to be saved, and we definitely will not do it better than God himself. So yes, try to help and pray, but don’t chase people who are not willing, and who are continuously throwing your efforts and the gospel, in the trash. Let God work in them, because at that point there is truly nothing else we can do, but take a step back from their destruction, get your children away from their destruction, pray and be still..

When we put God first in our marriage, it thrives.

When we put God first in our friendships, they thrive.

When we put God first, *fill in the blank* will thrive.

Compassion:

This is not to say we as Christians are so, utterly perfect, we still make plenty of mistakes. It will be difficult to tell someone (that you hold very dear), that there is another option than this sin, it is accepting the Lord Jesus as their savior and repenting of what they are doing, like that [example of] a horrible addiction mentioned above, because He is the way to eternal life, and not death. Those who go against God, hate the truth and they hate those who speak it.

Compassion isn’t ignoring truth, it’s speaking truth, even if people hate it. Do not get it twisted, that in order to be compassionate and loving, you cannot confront their sins, because it’s “not your place.” That is absolutely not the case, and it’s not what Jesus encouraged or exemplified. We can be gentle and honest at the same time.

Judge the sin, but do not judge the sinner, who committed it.

I know first hand, how difficult it is to have loved ones become harmful, and to have to break away from those relationships, especially when it’s to protect your children. Because they have either rejected the Lord, or they do know him, yet, do not care enough to acknowledge they are sinning against Him. I still don’t understand how someone can reject the Lord and His goodness, as well as cast hate upon him and people who love him, so easily. Family or friend, protect your children from having close relationships that are fruitless, and destructive. Our children are the most vulnerable.

We need to stop saying things so predominantly and broad like we have been– such as, “Don’t judge, judging is bad!” As a Christian, it is our place to say “Hey, this is not honoring to God, and is a sin that you should not continue committing. We can pray together, and find resources to help you break away from this, but it needs to stop.” As well as, point them in the Bible, to where it clarifies that it isn’t honoring to the Lord

Doing things like this, can be seen as judging someone, especially to people who want to be affirmed in their sin, and affirmed in their feelings. Regrettably, we all have done that; wanted to be told we are right, just because something hurt our feelings. I know that I have, many times. Where they are saying things like “if you loved me, you wouldn’t do this!” If it is something that goes against God and His word, than it is very much our place to say so, and to offer them a helping hand in breaking free from such! They should do the same for you as well, when they see you fall and stumble in your walk of faith.

I’ve read this book, and it has great points! Definitely recommend.

Verses:

– Don’t forget what we are fighting; not the sinner, the sin.

 Ephesians 6:12 (ESV) “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

  • If you are afraid to confront sin, to have confrontations, or just afraid of rejection. Maybe you’re just utterly afraid to hurt someone, even while knowing it’s the truth you are speaking. I encourage you to read these verses and then both of these chapters, fully.

Psalm 94:14 (ESV) “For the Lord will not forsake his people; he will not abandon his heritage;”

Ephesians 4:15 (ESV) “ Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into christ,”

  • Test the word before you confront someone about a potential sin, making sure that this is something that is truly not honoring to the Lord, and is actually causing them to stumble before God. We are meant to lift our brothers/sisters in Christ up, not tear them down. Point them to the truth, and pray for them, regardless if the truth is horribly unappealing to the ears to hear, say it anyways. That, is far from tearing them down. I even encourage you, if they don’t agree with you and think you’re absolutely absurd, have them point out in the Bible where what they are doing, stands for being honoring to God. Talk this out, and pray for each other. Something like this shouldn’t really be a short conversation. It may not be an easy one, either.

John 14:6 (ESV) “Jesus said to him, I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

2 Timothy 2:24-26 (ESV) ”And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.”

1 Thessalonians 5:21 (ESV) “But test everything; hold fast to what is good.

James 5:16 (ESV) “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”

Bringing the bible into those conversations, pointing out what part of the scriptures that makes you so firmly believe whatever they are doing goes against God, will help immensely; rather than you just saying “oh, it’s cause the bible says so.” However, this is not an opportunity to become prideful, and self-righteous over someone who is struggling. While we are saved by the grace of God (once we accept Jesus into our hearts), we all still make sinful errors and we must remember, we are called to lift others up. This is what we discuss next. 

To Be Continued…

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“Our Little Girl, and Why There Are No Portraits.”

First beach trip. A success! (this live sand dollar was put back)

The Reasoning:

My Husband and I have always been fairly private people, only telling close friends and family the details of our life. With starting a blog that is about our life, I knew we would be sharing much more than we’re used to. While public/social platforms can bring encouragement, inspiration, and help connect people. It can also bring unwanted attraction, and it has people on it who will, and do violate other’s privacy. While there is a lot of good people, there unfortunately will always be bad people too.

Our child is still pretty young, barely a year old! My husband and I have made the decision to keep her and future kid’s faces, off the blog and off social platforms. The wide web does have its perks, but because of the dangers that it holds and how easy it can be to find things and people by using it, we are just trying to be cautionary to keep our sweet, little ones safe. We will try to keep their faces off the internet’s feed, for as long as we can. Social media, does collect our personal information and that’s not something we feel too comfortable with, especially when it comes to our children. 

We know that there is already information and photos about our life on these platforms and such, but because our child hasn’t really been on there yet, we want to give her a fresh start away from social platforms. We also don’t want to continue to feed those collections with our personal photos, and information. Unfortunately, it is dangerously easy to find out anything about whoever you want, through public records and social media. All you really need is some free time, and patience to dig into the past.

Nature walks, with her Daddy. Who obviously, is in deep thought.

As For Us:

We’ve both had social media accounts and have had our pictures everywhere so we are much more loose with our own photos, just because they are already on everything anyways. We will most definitely still talk about how we raise our kids, and kid-related things on this blog and social platforms. They will also be known on our Rabbitry page too! The only difference is, you won’t see portraits of them or know too much personal details about them. I understand the mystery of that! but we like it better this way, at least for now. 

Reminder:

If you are one of the many parents out there that does it differently, we are not trying to attack you at all! Like I said before, social platforms can be a great way to connect, especially if you have relatives or close friends that you don’t get to see often! We are just sharing our personal reasons, so that it doesn’t seem too weird that we say we have a child, but then her cute little face, is never shown.

Our future:

Right now, we are trying to find a balance between blogging about our life, and not sharing too much at the same time! As our child gets older, and we have more kids, we might reconsider putting up all their photos, but it will be a while. So I hope you still enjoy these other photos that I try to add! Our little one is still a very big part of our life, obviously, so I can’t leave her out of the blog, too much. On that note, I will add just a couple fun facts! 

Her name is Beatrice, and we love her so! She has much to learn, but knows everything somehow as an almost one year old. We can’t wait to have more little ones, and fill our house with more little smiling faces! So again, everyone does it differently, and I hope you enjoy the pictures I will add in replacement to all the, more personal portraits.

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“Preparing For, and Choosing to Homeschool.”

Most of these books are linked below! However all are good reads!

Why We Want to Homeschool:

If you think about it, we have been teaching since our babies were born. It makes sense to just keep the ball rolling. Personally, I believe it’s our duty, as parents to guide children in all ways. Towards the Lord, and through life. I don’t believe the world is doing a very good job at such, or that it should be doing that job at all. We can’t rely on others to teach our children, while we sit back and watch. Our schools are taking it upon themselves, to teach its worldly views, and to install into our children’s minds that they are anything, but the image of God

Now please note, that’s not to say that every teacher is bad, or that your kid is going to come out of it with no smarts or even that they will leave their faith after, but I do think the schools highly encourage all of that. I know Christian people who went to public school and turned out just fine. However, we need to be the ones equipping our children with a strong, Godly foundation before the world tries to equip them with it’s faithless, lies. I don’t believe putting children in public school is encouraging their Christian walk, or that it is beneficial for our kids at all. Why are we as parents, scared to take them away from the danger that public school holds? We our their parents, and we are their teachers. Not the government, and not the schools.

Nothing in the school system being taught, is something that as a Christian, I can agree with. So, I will not put my children into it. While I do have honest, personal opinions, I’m not attacking those who chose to put their kids in public schools. If that is what you chose, or are choosing to do, then that is your choice as their parent! I just highly encourage you to think about why you are, and what your child will gain from it’s teachings. You don’t have to have a fancy college degree, to be successful. Lots of billionaires have proved that, already. Beside’s my obvious distain against public schools, I do just personally love homeschooling. My husband and I both have been homeschooled in the past, and want to with our children, as well. 

If you have decided to do public school;

I just encourage you parents, to give your children constant guidance along the way, because it will be very difficult for them, as a Christian! I encourage you to be very communicative with your children about what is being taught daily, and what the Lord says about it! Young children especially! If you don’t agree with the schools, but don’t know what else to do, there are plenty of homeschool groups that will gladly help you! and the Lord will guide you, so have no fear! If they have little to no guidance from you, how will they ever combat the worldly lies that they are being taught with in and from schools?

How We Are Prepping:

Right now, we have one, almost one year old. I personally like to somewhat plan ahead if not a full plan, then at least most of one. So while our daughter is still anxiously trying to learn to talk more, walk and run, I am anxiously trying to prepare for what we will do for her major homeschooling! I have read a few books while I was pregnant and on a side note, during pregnancy is when I found out I actually do enjoy reading books! Anyways, the books I read were so good! I will list a few down below that I would recommend to anyone. 

Homeschooling or not, I definitely think the ones listed for the mothers will help any parent, (especially those who have their kids in public schools).

As of right now, it’s more so just lots of reading to her, following along on others journey’s in homeschooling, listening to songs while we play, and looking at different curriculums/ideas to teach. I see homeschooling as much more than just math, english, history, etc. It’s complete guidance, in general that we are giving our children. So when I research, I’m researching how to guide Godly children, not just ideas for the required classes, at home.

When I was homeschooled, my mother had followed the traditional school year’s schedule, but I have heard many others just make their own schedule that worked for them. It all depends on what, and how you want to do it. Some only did certain “classes” one day a week, while others did the same “class” 3-4 days a week. Honestly, you can do whatever, because the options are unlimited with teaching from home.

Books I Recommend For The Moms:

Culture-proof kids linked here! Great book and I highly recommend both parents read it! It’s on Amazon, along with these others shown below!

Great read to better understand what the Founding Fathers were doing for the US and to learn some of our country’s history.
So great for homeschooling mamas!
Will always recommend this one, for any mama
This book, is great for both parents. Perfect conversation starter between parents and kids!

Books I Recommend For The Kids: Mostly fun ones!

We love all of these stories, for our Beatrice!
What we are reading to learn the ABC’S, and it’s also a song!
Going to get for our little one, soon!
A bible for kids, we have bought this one as well!

Reading these books really gave me great ideas, and encouraged me as a mom. I know I will be (and have already) referring back to them later in the future. Books will be our main source of teaching/learning for a long while. They are already something we enjoy doing to teach our daughter now! Reading is such a simple, efficient way of teaching them, because you can read anything. If you have a kid (or kids) you know how much they soak things in. I believe the phrase is, “children are like a sponge.”  So let’s provide them with all the goods to soak up!

Whether you have a kid, or you are trying to prepare because it’s in the near future, I encourage you to read! You might find you actually like it, if you don’t already. We are major influences on our children, that is a fact. They are more likely to pick up a book, or at least want you to read it to them, if they are too young to read it themselves. I can’t wait to pick out more books as time goes on, and our Beatrice gets older. So don’t mind me, periodically sharing a stack of books for kids and their moms here and there!