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“Part 1: Filtering Through Good and Bad Media”

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When it comes to movies, shows, social media, or anything of that sort, we as parents, get worried! We ask ourselves, if this show is too much language, violence, sexual content— what is truly safe or okay for our minds, and our children’s minds? My hope is that you don’t shy away from all media entirely after reading this, but that this can help guide you with what media you do take in!

First, Lets Examine Ourselves:

As parents, we know our children learn and copy things, from us. Whether they are 1 years old copying our head nods and dance moves, or 15 years old copying our attitudes, they do! I can say from experience, that I have copied my parents at times during my childhood and teen years by handling things the way I thought they would have, and I can also say from experience, my own 1 year old daughter copies me! 

Obviously, there will be things that we do as adults our kids will not be able to do until they are older, or adults even. However, with communication and time, they should eventually understand those reasons. But we’re not talking about that. We’re talking about our reasoning as parents, for guidelines on what’s considered safe for their minds and why. As a parent, who is in the beginning of weeding out things for my daughter to watch or listen to, my husband and I have started it with a few questions;

  1. What have I been watching and allowing myself to see?
  2. Is there anything that is not glorifying to God for me to let into my mind whatsoever, in my movies, media, books, etc?
  3. If there is something, why am I continuing to watch/listen to it?
  • is it because it doesn’t bother me physically/emotionally, so I don’t see any reason to stop?
  • is it because it is fun, thrilling, or is enjoyable for me to watch/listen to?

4. What does the Lord say in scripture, about some of the main factors we see in media;

  • Such as sexual content (any sex scenes, insinuative sexual innuendo, intimate couple scenes, nudity, etc), violence (any gruesome, graphic, gore, etc), and negative language (cursing, putting people down— any foul, negative, degrading talk).

We should first pinpoint what it is we have allowed to overstep into our own minds, before we oversee what will overstep in our children’s minds. There will of course, be plenty of media, that we just have to take the good from and throw out the bad; majority of it is like that, but there are also just certain things in the media that has no logical, nor biblical reasons to view or listen to, at all. 

Sexual Content:

One of the things that helps me personally, and that I tend to think of first when it comes to sexual content in any kind of media I will be watching or listening to is; 

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If a couple were doing this in the mall or parking lot, would I just stand and watch them, or would I try not to look, and walk away? Think of it like that, a real scenario where you are actually witnessing 2 people like that, on a random day. Let’s break it down to what we know is true.

When it comes to sexual intimacy in our lives: 

The Lord made sex/sexual intimacy to be a special, beautiful, union between husband and wife, only.

  • Genesis 1:28 ESV “And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
  • Mark 10:6-9 ESV “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

God made sexual intimacy, for us to enjoy in marriage to the fullest!

  • 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 ESV “ The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
  • Any of Song of Solomons is also good example of the blessing of that union in marriage as well, I encourage you to read through that too!

We are not to act in sexual immorality.

  • Matthew 5:27-28 ESV “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
  • I also encourage you to read through Romans 1:18-32
  • 1 Corinthians 6:18-19 ESV ” Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know the body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom who have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

Looking at scripture, we can confirm that any intimacy/sex is meant for a husband and wife to enjoy to the fullest, and that we are not to act in sexual immorality of any sorts. We can agree (I hope) that Pornography is bad, but then we go and watch sexual content and/or sex scenes in “regular” movies, or other media, why is that?

Another way to think of it as, is why would we bring in a third party, or become the third party to someone else’s intimacy, by watching it on a screen, or listening to it?

Does it truly matter, whether a certain sexual scene or scenario bothers us emotionally, or physically? What we should focus on instead, is whether we should be viewing it at all.

I encourage you:

  • To read scripture on what the Lord intends intimacy/sex for, and what is true and not true about it.
  • Then evaluate the media you are allowing into your own mind.
  • Next, evaluate what media you will be allowing your children to view.

When it comes to our kids watching or listening to things, we need to be able to explain to them why we allow certain things and not others, and why we are watching things that we previously gave them a no, on. They need to understand the biblical reasoning behind those decisions, on filtering this, or that and why only certain things need to wait until they get older. Not just for sexual content, but for other things like language and violence as well, which is what we will be discussing next!

To Be Continued…

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“Resources I’ve Found Helpful, Throughout My Walk of Faith”

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Since becoming a Christian for myself, and realizing that I didn’t have this faith solely because my parents did, I have had a desire to learn more about Christ, to ask more questions, to seek the truth and the evidence for it. Now that I am also a parent, I find that desire to be amplified, greatly. Since I started my search I have found resources (and have been given recommendations) that turned out to be a lot of help. 

I thought it would also be of help to you and your family, to list some of my most helpful resources! Especially to help equip us for when our kids start asking us very hard questions! So, before I get the list started, I just want to encourage you to read everything, but most importantly test everything. I will divide everything into different categories, to help make it easier.

A lot of these resources, are things that sparked many questions and much curiosity, and if it’s not something you’ve watched or heard before, I’m sure it will for your family too! Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself to think more critically, to gain better answers for those hard questions, even if it takes effort and time. These different resources, took me down so many bunny trails of thoughts! Although a lot of them were strengthening for me, some I wrestled with.

As I find more resources, I will update this post with them!

– Resources: 

Debates on Christianity:

  1. John Ferrer vs Matt Dillahunty Debate: Do We need God For Morality?
  2. Allen Hainline vs Lydia Allan Debate: Science and God
  3. The Bible and Beer Consortium Youtube Channel

Informational Videos: Help For Guiding Kids

  1. Mike Winger w/ Elizabeth Urbanowicz “7 Lies Your Kids Will Believe Unless You Do Something”
  2. Mike Winger “Teen Atheist Becomes Christian Because of This Evidence”
  3. Mike Winger “When Your “Progressive Christian” Heresy is Really, Really Clever”
  4. Capturing Christianity W/ Dr. Ben Arbour on: The Ontological argument

Informational Documentaries, and Articles/Blogs:

  1. The Star of Bethlehem Documentary 2007 
  2. Mama Bear Apologetics Blog and Podcast
  3. Natasha Crain Blog: The Number One Sign Your Kids Are Just borrowing Your Faith (and not Developing Their Own).
  4. Natasha Crain Blog and Podcast
  5. Alyssa Childers Blog and Podcast
  6. Article version of William Lane Craig’s Lecture: The Kalam Cosmological Argument
  7. More information on the: Ontological Argument
  8. More information on the: Teleological Argument

More research on your end, is greatly encouraged. I did not put these here as answers to everything, but they are here more so, to get you to think deeper! I found my faith being strengthened, when I went to seek the truth; I encourage you to do the same.

John 8:31-32 ESV “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

John 14:6 ESV “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

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“Expecting Another Baby, and Choosing a Home Birth.”

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So, as you have seen from the title of this post, we are expecting another sweet, little baby, coming Spring 2022! We are beyond excited, to bring another baby into this world and for our daughter to finally, have a sibling! It is such a blessing. With our first baby, Beatrice, I had her right when the “pandemic” had pretty much began. We went with a birth center for her, but this time around we will be doing a home birth.

First Pregnancy:

With Beatrice, the pregnancy and birth went wonderfully, and that was all because of the Lord. Although my husband could not come to appointments, until I was half way through it, and there were other potential uncertainties, we held fast to the Lord the entire time, and never once, got anxious over it. The Lord had answered all of our prayers during that pregnancy and the birth, it was such, a blessing. I won’t go into detail over everything, as we want to hold close the more personal things, but the Lord kept us protected, as He always will.

As mentioned above, we went with a birth center and during that time, many labor/delivery places did not allow more than 1-2 support people, in the room with you. I heard of some places not even allowing 1 person- no mother, should ever be forced to give birth, alone. The birth center we were at, when we were there, allowed 2 people. However, before we even got far into the pregnancy, my husband and I had decided, we wanted it to be just us, when our daughter was born.

My focus was always going to be on the Lord for my strength, on getting the baby here safely, and on my husband for my physical/emotional support. We really wanted that special time by ourselves, as a family. I also, just don’t love being put on display for everyone to see, that’s just my personal preference. So, we did not feel the need to have anyone else there, during the birth. It was so sweet, coming home and then introducing our baby to her new aunts/uncles, and her grandparents, as well. We will definitely be doing it this way for a long while! 

Baby Beatrice, holding on to Momma and bunny- fast asleep.

I Encourage You:

We are very blessed to be able to choose, and do a home birth. I know, unfortunately, some people do not have this choice, due to certain medical issues and such, requiring them to need some extra medical care. I just want to encourage you, if you wanted to do home birth, yet can’t during this time; if you’re scared, don’t be! Pray and trust in Jesus, he will keep your family protected. Trust that no matter what happens, we are not meant to stay on this earth. Eventually, we will be with our Lord and Savior, for eternity. I’d say, that is the greatest blessing, and greatest comfort.

Choosing Home Birth:

Originally, I actually did not enjoy the idea of a home birth, at all. I wanted the chaos of labor and delivery, to be somewhere other than my home, so I could come back to my peaceful, quiet house. Also, if I have to be messed with, I would rather be messed with at the birth center, where that happens all the time, and not in the privacy, of my house. But alas! Here I am planning to have my second child, in the sweet privacy of my home. It’s too funny. I have a wonderful midwife though, and thankfully, it was actually someone we already knew and had a relationship built with! To be serious though, our thoughts changed on this because of the dark pressures and demands in everything, involving covid. 

We do not want to be uncomfortable, be pressured to do things, be given incorrect treatment, or even not receive treatment at all, based off a “potential symptom” or a certain “protocol” when we need to focus on our baby and his/her health. We will not allow our child, to be treated, or mistreated, against our will as his/her parents either, due to the healthcare system having their specific “protocols.” So, for our safety, and the safety of our child; we are choosing to do a home birth, as that gives us the comfort and freedom, we are looking for and desire.

With how things have gone, so many have been treated unfairly, because the medical facilities don’t agree with a patients (or employee’s) views on certain things, or they are just stuck following their, once again, “protocols”. Apparently, people have got to know the complete medical immunization (and political) history of everyone and their dog, all so they can bully you into an oblivion— unless of course! it’s in line with their own views.

Ultimately though, no matter what happens with me, or with you if you are also going through pregnancy right now; the Lord is with us, and our children

We did not choose to do home birth out of fear, We chose to do home birth, because we simply will not be forced, or have rights stripped away from us, or our child. We fear the Lord, not the government or any mandate, that it throws out. Because ultimately, without question, it is Jesus Christ, who has more power than anyone, or anything on earth. So lastly, I will leave you with some scripture!

Acts 5:29 ESV “But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.”

1 Corinthians 10:31 ESV “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

Philippians 4:6-7 ESV “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

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“Christian Families vs Halloween.”

Husband carved this, for our daughter- too cute!

This week, a bad cold hit our little family, and we haven’t been doing very much, but watching Tinker Bell with our daughter, and drinking tea. Halloween looks different every year for us, we don’t ever go crazy about it and we look at it, as any other day. Usually, my husband is working and our daughter, Beatrice, has been too little to do things, anyways. I’m sure what we do on Halloween, will change over time, though. Celebrate or not to celebrate; it’s so sticky for a lot of Christian families, and with having my own family now, I’ve had my views change over this day, as well.

The Way We Grew Up:

My family really never celebrated Halloween, at all. We did maybe once or twice, when I was very young, but after I got older, and more siblings came along we stopped, entirely. My husband’s family did celebrate, in their own little way. Just them around their house, and as he and his siblings got older they would go to a Halloween party, if a friend was throwing one, and such. As a child, I always had the perspective that Halloween was an evil holiday, and it wasn’t good for Christians to celebrate. My husband and I, had many talks over what we would do, as we had grown up in families that had pretty, different takes on it.

Questions To Ask: For Parents and Kids

  • In regards to Halloween day, and costumes:
  1. What ways could we honor the Lord, on this day?
  2. What kinds of celebration during this day, would be dishonoring to the Lord, if we partake in it?
  3. What does scripture say, about celebration and how to honor the Lord, with what we do?
  4. What does scripture say about life and death?
  5. What parts of Halloween do you think contains glorifications of death and sinful things?
  6. What parts of Halloween do you think does not glorify, death and sinful things?
  7. Have you prayed about it, to make sure it won’t be harmful to you and/or your faith in any way?
  8. If you wear a costume, what could you wear that is honoring to the Lord?
  9. Why do you think this specific costume, would honor the Lord?
  10. Why do you think this specific costume, would be dishonoring to the Lord?
  • In regards to Halloween parties, horror movies, and haunted festivities:
  1. What about the movie seems honoring and/or dishonoring to the Lord? and could you pick out any good things from it, that would be beneficial to you and/or your faith in any way?
  2. What about this haunted festivity is honoring and/or dishonoring to the Lord? and is there any good you can pick out?
  3. What about this specific party is honoring and/or dishonoring to the Lord? and is there any good you can pick out?
  4. Have you prayed about it, to make sure it wouldn’t be harmful to you and/or your faith, in any way?
  5. What ways could you spread the gospel, while out with your friends on a day like this?

If you find that, as you answer these questions- you and your children- that maybe Halloween is not something you need to, or want to partake in at all, then that is okay. If you find that while answering these questions, you have found yourself seeing the parts of Halloween that aren’t so bad, and see it to be alright for your family to partake in after all, that is also okay.

If you have fully thought it out, looked into scripture, and discussed it with your spouse, as to why you have decided on this or that, and you have found a way to partake, that honors and glorifies the Lord, go for it!

On my list of books to get!

What Our Kids Need To Know, About Anything We Choose To Celebrate:

When it comes to Halloween, if you’re a Christian family and you choose to celebrate parts of it, or you don’t at all, I think either way is fine! I listened to a podcast recently, (Allie Beth Stuckey’s Relatable Podcast: Ep 514) where she (Allie) talks about how they put candy in baggies, with a piece of paper that had scripture on it, or making banners with scripture on it as outside decor- I thought it was a wonderful inspiration! It’s the one day a year people, come to our doors, and we don’t have to lecture them, or convert them right there on our front porch, but at least spread some gospel. If you can, and while you can!

– Philippians 4:6-9 ESV “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

I am giving, a brief description of what she talked over in the podcast episode, but it was worth mentioning on here for sure! I encourage you to go find, and listen to that podcast. I definitely agree with how she thinks when it comes to Halloween! We are not called to celebrate, or glorify death and decay, and while Halloween has a lot of that; I do think that not every piece of Halloween is a celebration of death. Like getting candy for example, or wearing (certain) costumes. Those are both things kids do randomly throughout the year, anyways. At least, when I was a child, I played dress up and ate candy, occasionally.

Regardless of what’s decided, our children need to know that whatever we choose to celebrate, it needs to be honoring to the Lord!

More Scripture:

  • 1 Corinthians 10:31 ESV “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
  • 1 Corinthians 6:20 ESV “for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
  • Proverbs 15:3 ESV “The eyes of the Lord are in every place, keeping watch on the evil and the good.”

What We Will Do: 

Our daughter, isn’t quite old enough to be doing things right now, for any holiday that is. However, as she gets older I see her asking to go to parties with friends, maybe mentioning those creepier movies, or wanting to go to different kinds of haunted festivities, no doubt! I’m sure we all have done so, to our parents at one point in time.

I can’t imagine we’d say no, unless for good reason, if she wants to go to a Halloween party a friend is throwing. As for the other “haunted” things, or even the creepy movies, considering they are mostly playing, this time of year; we will ask the questions listed above, and help our daughter or any children we have, to figure it out through thought, prayer, and scripture, just as we will do with everything else. 

Halloween should not be a day that is feared so much that we hide away, or seen as something like the devil’s birthday, as I’ve been told in the past, as a young child who just wanted some candy (I unfortunately, don’t recall who exactly said this). However, that did indeed, deter me from wanting to partake! and it is definitely not the devils birthday, in case you were wondering. If you choose to, or choose not to, partake in any parts of Halloween, I encourage you to explain why to your children, and make sure your decision, will honor God. It’s also important, to make sure they understand that your decision, is honoring to God.

Lastly, if whatever you have chosen to partake in, or celebrate, does not honor the Lord in any way, you should rethink why you are celebrating it, at all.

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“Thoughts, On My Mind”

Some cute, pumpkins from the Pumpkin Patch we went to, over the weekend.

We went to a Pumpkin Patch, this weekend. It was a really sunny day, and perfect weather; so many families were out and about. For us, personally (although, this is likely true, for most of us) it’s been so long since we have actually seen little ones running around outside, in the fresh air, and actually seeing their whole faces, while doing so. I’m happy to say, that the majority of the people there, you could see their whole face! and whatever emotion it portrayed. Lately, I’ve had family on my mind a lot, as I’m sure most of us have. Not just my own relatives, but families in general.

With what is happening in the world right now, I’ve heard quite often, people’s fears of bringing children into this world at a moment like this, and how they just don’t want to, at all. Another I’ve heard, is that they are scared for the children they do have. I know, as a parent, I do not want my daughter to ever suffer in her life, but I also know that we all endure something. Children are a gift, and they are a blessing from the Lord.

Psalms 127:3 ESV “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.”

We are all placed on this earth with a purpose; even our tiny, little (or big) children. The Lord doesn’t bring someone here, without a purpose. No matter what is going on around us, what the world looks like, whatever we predict the outcome to be in the future; any child placed here, is here for a reason.

2 Timothy 1:9 ESV “who saved us and called us to a holy calling, not because of our works but because of his own purpose and grace, which he gave us in christ Jesus before the ages began.”

Romans 8:28 ESV “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.”

Such a fun, corn maze!

If you want children, do not be afraid, pray, and wait on the Lord’s answer. If, a child is the Lord’s will, he will make it happen! If you already have children, equip them with scripture and guide them best you can. Lastly, just always remember to seek the Lord, and rebuke the enemy. That’s the best advice I got, for you!

2 Timothy 1:7 ESV “for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”

There are people out there, making life-altering decisions, because of fear.

There are also people out there, making life-altering decisions, out of a fight against fear.

Pray for all of them, and for any children they may be bringing into this world (or any children whom are already here).

While I know this was shorter than usual, that is all the encouragement, I have for right now. However, there will be more things to come, in the near future! Currently, I have been just focusing on doing things one step at a time, enjoying the busyness of life, and having quality time with my little family, when we have the time.

Jeremiah 29:11 ESV “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”